Post # 1
So, my wonderful sister just got married. I know she wants to have kids, but I just don’t know if she plans on starting now, or later…
I want to just come out and ask, as I’m about to buy my bridesmaids dresses, and the ones we were looking at have a tighter tummy. She is my matron of honor, so we could try to find a different dress with a looser flowing fabric for her, but I don’t want to hunt down a new one if she won’t need it.
I don’t plan for her to not try if that’s what she wants, but I do want to order my bridesmaids dresses within the next month or so.
Should I come out and ask her? And if so, how? She is still in honeymoon mode as they just got married about two weeks ago, and I know she doesn’t want to focus on my wedding currently, but I have to order the dresses soon….
Post # 3
I would t ask her about it. If she’s worried about it, I think she’ll come to you.
Post # 4
If she’s pregnant, she’ll order a bigger size. I wouldn’t worry about it. Most people don’t get pregnant within the first few months of marriage anyway.
Post # 5
@Cornmuffin09: Even if she says yes, there is no telling how her TTC journey will go. She could be KU already or not get pregnant for 3 years.
Cross that bridge if/when you get to it.
Post # 6
No. Don’t ask! She’ll say something to you if she’s worried about it, and/or if she actually does get pregnant, you can deal with it then.
Post # 7
I’d just slip it in like a casual comment “Hey, when are you guys going to start trying? I want to make sure you’ll actually be able to fit into your Maid/Matron of Honor dress!”
Post # 8
i wouldn’t bring it up. if she thinks it’s going to be a concern, she’ll say something herself. also like others said, unless she’s already preg, there’s no guarantee that she will be by your wedding
ETA: also i feel like that isn’t necessarily info everyone would feel comfortable being asked about, but you know her best
Post # 9
I really don’t think you should ask. Of course you are sisters, but that is private between her and her husband and could stir up pain for her if she is having problems in that department for whatever reason. I think you should notify her that you’re about to order dresses and just wanted to check with her that you had the right size. That question alone would be an indication to her to say she needs a bigger size, or to hold off and order something later, if she needs to due to pregnancy. Otherwise, proceed as usual. Good luck!