Post # 1
How did you guys go about bringing up ring shopping?
I mean, we all know dropping hints doesn’t always go well with guys. I dont want to pick out my exact ring, ans i plan on giving him some guidelines of what I would like, but what are some good ways to Segway into the conversation?
I have a feeling my SO wants to go the surprise route, but I’ve been envisioning my e ring for years lol. I want him to be proud for picking it out, but i also want to love whatever he gives me, cause I know I’ll be kind of picky because I’m particular about how my rings in general fit.
Post # 2
I’m about as subtle as a brick to the head, I handed him a list of the rings I liked, where he could get them, and told him “One of those three when you are ready”.
Fit was super important to me too, as I wear gloves at work.
Post # 3
If you have pinterest, scroll through images of rings and talk out loud about the rings you like. Tell him to come over and check out all the sparklies. Gage his interest and go from there.
You could also wander through a jewelry store at the mall, look at some rings casually and as you are walking through the rest of the mall afterwards, talk aloud what you liked/disliked.
He can still surprise you, and letting him know what your preferences are will not ruin anything.
Post # 4
My guy is super intent on surprising me as well. I’ve been pestering him about ring shopping for a while because I want to make sure that the ring I end up with is something I want to wear for the rest of my life, and he was super reluctant at first. I finally told him that the longer he waits, the harder it’s going to be to surprise me. I told him that if he went with me now, I would have no idea when it was going to happen. But if he asked me to go look at rings with him one day, then I would know something was up. This approach may not work for you, but it worked for me. We went ring shopping last weekend and he’s agreed to visit a couple stores each weekend until I find something I love!
Post # 5
“good ways to Segway into the conversation”
I love typos/autocorrects that carry visuals with them !
Post # 6
Unsure if my advice would be any good at all, but I straight out said to him “I want to pick my own ring”. Yes I didn’t want to hurt his feelings, but it’s not something he’s wearing for the rest of his life. We ended up going to the jeweller together since I wanted his opinion on what he liked, and we ended up on something simple which was what he liked but I got to pick the style, setting etc.
He wasn’t upset about not being able to pick it himself, he just didn’t want to propose with out one.
Post # 7
Send him the link to this thread?;) Seriously though, just explain to him like you told us. I am sure he wants you to be happy and when you lay it out for him like that he will understand.
Post # 8
Once he told me that he had asked my parents blessing to marry me I went home and made him a PDF (no joke!). I told him to print it off and take it to the jeweler when he went ring shopping. I was totally unabashed about it all.
He ignormed the PDF entirely. When he finally got around to proposing. He proposed with a dainty gold wedding band and told me I could pick out my own e-ring. That worked just fine too!
Post # 9
Have you two agreed you want to get engaged soon? If so, it should be pretty easy to just ‘stop by’ a jewelry store nearby to see what styles you like.
When Darling Husband and I were about to get engaged, I was very straightforward. “Go into this store, buy that ring, and get it in a size 5.” Lol. I let him surprise me with the proposal, but not with the ring. It worked for us!
Post # 10
He dragged me to try on rings and I was hesitant because I wasn’t sure if he’s serious. When we visited my parents for the holidays my Dad broke the news that Fiance asked for his blessing. That’s when I knew that he meant business and I gave him the specs that I wanted.
We ended up buying the ring together… He knew I would enjoy trying on Diamonds of all shapes and sizes.
Post # 11
After we had started talking about getting engaged, and the potential timeline, I told my SO “I really want ti go ring shopping with you so I can see what looks good on my hand- metal, shape, size… What I like on pinterest might look terrible on my hand”
I spun it like I wasn’t sure what I wanted (and I wasn’t) but I also really wanted him to see what made me excited and what I said “No” to.
In the end, I spent months on moissaniteco.com, sent him 3 emails with about 5 different settings in each, and finally I saw my setting (on this board!) and was like “THIS IS IT! Forget every other ring I’ve sent you”
Post # 12
thanks for the input, all!
He definitely wants to be a part of the decision making, hes already started hinting at his preferences such as stone cut and metal type
We are getting engaged, probably this fall after he gets promoted to a full time teacher.
We’re going out tonight.. might just wander into a store 😉
Post # 13
Honestly you should tell him what you want…guide him in the right direction…it WILL be a surprise because you wont know when it will happen anyway.
You should get what you love ! I am a firm believer in that.
Also most men from my experience (I work with 95% men) mostly go for classic looks or something the jeweler recommends.
Why shouldn’t he consider your preference?!
Post # 14
We went and tried on rings together several times so he knew exactly what I liked and didn’t like. Notes were taken.
This was really good experience for him because his suggestion was to try on solitaires when we went. Personally, I don’t care for solitaires and he would have never known (and probably bought a solitaire) if we hadn’t gone together to look at rings.