(Closed) Bringing wine to a party that goes unopened…do you take it back?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: If you bring a bottle of wine that doesn't get drank, do you take it back?

    No

    Yes

  • Post # 17
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Always leave it. 

    Post # 18
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I leave it, even if it’s a BYOB event. Leftovers are a thank you for hosting.

    Post # 19
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I always leave it. I don’t like wine anyway, so what would I do with it! 

    Post # 20
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    Honey Beekeeper

    Of course you leave it there.  As for pot lucks, to me those are something that a group of people decide to do together. If you invite people, then you are supposedly the host. 

    Post # 21
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

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    @red_rose:  Ditto. If the host asks that the guest take the wine back, then that’s cool. Otherwise it would be super rude for the guest to take back the wine. It’s a gift.

    Post # 22
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Absolutely not it’s a gift for the host which they can open at the party or save for later. 

    Post # 23
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    In most cases I’d leave it there, because I’d consider it a hostess gift

    Post # 24
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    No, that’s incredibly rude. 

    Post # 25
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    No, no, no. NEVER take back the wine. It is a huge etiquette faux pas and a slap in the face to your host.

    I have seen someone do this before, and it is such bad manners. Very gauche.

    Post # 26
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @chillinchillin:  depends, if it’s a BYOB situation and I brought it with the intention to drink it myself and I didn’t I might bring it home with me – but not if I’d consumed the hosts alcohol instead….

     If I brought it as a hostess gift (which is usually the case) I wouldn’t.  I don’t expect people to serve the wine I bring.  

    Post # 27
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    Busy bee

    A gift is a gift. No givesies backsies.

    Post # 28
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I would consider it a hostess gift.

    Post # 30
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    When I was 22ish I remember bringing a bottle of patron to a friends house party. His parents were out of town (lol) I got so much flack from 22 year old etiquette snobs for bringing the half bottle back home with me, hey it was expensive and the “host” doesn’t own the house, it was his parents. Fast forward a bazillion years I would definitely leave whatever I brought to someone’s house!

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