- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
Always leave it.
Always leave it.
I leave it, even if it’s a BYOB event. Leftovers are a thank you for hosting.
I always leave it. I don’t like wine anyway, so what would I do with it!
Of course you leave it there. As for pot lucks, to me those are something that a group of people decide to do together. If you invite people, then you are supposedly the host.
Absolutely not it’s a gift for the host which they can open at the party or save for later.
In most cases I’d leave it there, because I’d consider it a hostess gift
No, that’s incredibly rude.
No, no, no. NEVER take back the wine. It is a huge etiquette faux pas and a slap in the face to your host.
I have seen someone do this before, and it is such bad manners. Very gauche.
@chillinchillin: depends, if it’s a BYOB situation and I brought it with the intention to drink it myself and I didn’t I might bring it home with me – but not if I’d consumed the hosts alcohol instead….
If I brought it as a hostess gift (which is usually the case) I wouldn’t. I don’t expect people to serve the wine I bring.
A gift is a gift. No givesies backsies.
I would consider it a hostess gift.
thanks for the opinions! i tried telling my friend’s boyfriend to take the wine with them, but before i could even get it out he was dropping it into his backpack. it’s not a huge deal, but he constantly shows himself to be the taker/user type so it just seemed like one more kinda rude thing along those same lines. i guess we all have a friend’s bf we don’t like at one time or another! i’m just hoping they don’t end up married..hahah.
thanks for your input everyone! i too never take anything back with me. if i bring something it’s to contribute to what’s consumed. if we didn’t drink it it’s because we drank the hostess’s wine up instead and i’m happy to offer them something. with this group of friends, we would most likely drink that same bottle with them at a later date anyway. to me it just makes the grabber seem kinda petty! if you only want to drink it if necessary, just keep it in your backpack and don’t say anything about it! don’t present it to me when you arrive and get all the thank yous then take it back, lol.
When I was 22ish I remember bringing a bottle of patron to a friends house party. His parents were out of town (lol) I got so much flack from 22 year old etiquette snobs for bringing the half bottle back home with me, hey it was expensive and the “host” doesn’t own the house, it was his parents. Fast forward a bazillion years I would definitely leave whatever I brought to someone’s house!
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