British Bees X's in texts

posted 7 days ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
3078 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

dsaasd :  welcome to the UK.

lol about the x. I only really use it with my husband. At the end of every text between us we put xxx.


i do have friends who use it almost like a full stop at the end of their message. 

I suppose the only rule is not to do it to your boss or colleagues, but even then people don’t mind too much of you do it once or twice as a mistake. I know I have accidentally added a few x’s when I’ve been typing fast.


Post # 3
592 posts
Busy bee

I am Canadian and lived in Scotland for a while, it threw me for a loop.

I just ended up adding the “x”s to everything as everyone else was. Including boss and colleagues.


Post # 4
13 posts

An x symbolises a kiss. It’s a way of showing affection, usually when signing off a message. Like the French use of bisous (kisses). Used between partners, family members, female friends, sometimes male-female friends, usually not male-male friends (although my husband sent a text meant for me to one of his male friends the other day and apparently he was delighted by the kisses!)

Post # 5
13 posts

Also, it’s totally fine not to use them. I do with some friends sometimes, but really only if they do first. My husband insists that we sign off every text to each other with a kiss. I wouldn’t care at all if we didn’t but it matters to him.

The only problem would be if you generally use them and then stop because the person will think you’re upset with them. 

I wouldn’t use with anyone you’re formally communicating with, like a boss or colleague, unless you’re genuinely also friends. Even then be cautious about crossing that line in a professional setting. 

Post # 6
406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2020 - Windermere, Cumbria

They’re kisses! xx

Post # 7
247 posts
Helper bee

Ahaha this is such a good thread. I have a genuine problem and add xx to every text without thinking, including to colleagues, the plumber etc. 

In answer to your questions: no you’re not rude for not adding them, lots of British people Also don’t; and no there’s no line between romantic or friendly for when most people use them or with what they mean. You could add them to texts to friends if you feel comfortable but otherwise I wouldn’t worry xx

Post # 8
631 posts
Busy bee

kia2019 :  to the plumber. Lol! 🤣

ETA:. It’s for the plumber’s crack. 😘 XXX

Post # 9
2530 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It’s a double kiss for me and my husband  – be aware if less are sent!!

shinypebble :  

Post # 10
15 posts
  • Wedding: January 2016

hahah! Great thread. Embrace the xxx’s, I say. I lived in the UK several years ago and after all this town, I still bandy them about with very little restraint 



Post # 11
12635 posts
Honey Beekeeper

It’s pretty common in the US to sign xo or xoxo when writing to good friends and close family. Literally, hugs and kisses. 

Post # 12
2982 posts
Sugar bee

Business colleagues and acquaintances = no kisses

Friends = x

Close friends = xx

Husband and daughter = xxxxxxx or 💜💜💜

These kisses shouldn’t be used to convey annoyance or manipulation. A friend of my daughter’s puts fewer kisses if she is annoyed. My daughter simply mischievously replies by putting an excess of kisses.

Texts are the only place I use exclamation marks! I find that they don’t work elsewhere but in texts they convey interest and excitement!

Post # 13
2163 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Hahaha this happens in New Zealand too.

Post # 14
887 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

It’s just an affectionate thing. I’ll use them in texts to my husband, parents, friends, etc, but not colleagues.

Ive used them to sign off messages on here too, I had no idea it’s not used everywhere.

Post # 15
5815 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

The thing you really need to worry about is when you don’t get an x! 

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