Post # 1
Hey UK Bees, I relocated to the UK 4 months ago. All is well except, what’s with all the X’s in text messages here? This isn’t a thing in Canada or the US, but you guys put them everywhere. Like “See you at 3 x” “Night xx” “Can you buy some toilet roll x?” Am I rude if I don’t add them, is there a line between friendly and romantic? This is certainly the cultural difference I did not see coming lol.
Post # 2
dsaasd : welcome to the UK.
lol about the x. I only really use it with my husband. At the end of every text between us we put xxx.
i do have friends who use it almost like a full stop at the end of their message.
I suppose the only rule is not to do it to your boss or colleagues, but even then people don’t mind too much of you do it once or twice as a mistake. I know I have accidentally added a few x’s when I’ve been typing fast.
Post # 3
I am Canadian and lived in Scotland for a while, it threw me for a loop.
I just ended up adding the “x”s to everything as everyone else was. Including boss and colleagues.
Post # 4
An x symbolises a kiss. It’s a way of showing affection, usually when signing off a message. Like the French use of bisous (kisses). Used between partners, family members, female friends, sometimes male-female friends, usually not male-male friends (although my husband sent a text meant for me to one of his male friends the other day and apparently he was delighted by the kisses!)
Post # 5
Also, it’s totally fine not to use them. I do with some friends sometimes, but really only if they do first. My husband insists that we sign off every text to each other with a kiss. I wouldn’t care at all if we didn’t but it matters to him.
The only problem would be if you generally use them and then stop because the person will think you’re upset with them.
I wouldn’t use with anyone you’re formally communicating with, like a boss or colleague, unless you’re genuinely also friends. Even then be cautious about crossing that line in a professional setting.
Post # 7
Ahaha this is such a good thread. I have a genuine problem and add xx to every text without thinking, including to colleagues, the plumber etc.
In answer to your questions: no you’re not rude for not adding them, lots of British people Also don’t; and no there’s no line between romantic or friendly for when most people use them or with what they mean. You could add them to texts to friends if you feel comfortable but otherwise I wouldn’t worry xx
Post # 8
kia2019 : to the plumber. Lol! 🤣
ETA:. It’s for the plumber’s crack. 😘 XXX
Post # 9
It’s a double kiss for me and my husband – be aware if less are sent!!
Post # 10
hahah! Great thread. Embrace the xxx’s, I say. I lived in the UK several years ago and after all this town, I still bandy them about with very little restraint
Post # 11
It’s pretty common in the US to sign xo or xoxo when writing to good friends and close family. Literally, hugs and kisses.
Post # 12
Business colleagues and acquaintances = no kisses
Friends = x
Close friends = xx
Husband and daughter = xxxxxxx or 💜💜💜
These kisses shouldn’t be used to convey annoyance or manipulation. A friend of my daughter’s puts fewer kisses if she is annoyed. My daughter simply mischievously replies by putting an excess of kisses.
Texts are the only place I use exclamation marks! I find that they don’t work elsewhere but in texts they convey interest and excitement!
Post # 13
Hahaha this happens in New Zealand too.
Post # 14
- Wedding: February 2018 - UK
It’s just an affectionate thing. I’ll use them in texts to my husband, parents, friends, etc, but not colleagues.
Ive used them to sign off messages on here too, I had no idea it’s not used everywhere.
Post # 15
The thing you really need to worry about is when you don’t get an x!