(Closed) Bro-in law is getting married. Gift Help? A little complicated…

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Iunno but it’s HIS baby brother. Despite what I got or didn’t get I think I’d give my baby brother as much as I could. So I’m going to have to side with your man on this one.

 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’d just get them something of the registry too. $100 is a lot for a gift (in my opinion anyway) That’s so nice of your hubby to want to give them the cash though!!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I think you guys should just give them a card! How rude of them to come to your wedding and not even bring a card! Obviously you need to talk this out with your husband but I totally agree with you on this one! They cannot expect a gift if they didn’t bother to give you one.

Just my personal opinion!

Post # 8
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5183 posts
Bee Keeper

personally, I would get them some 50$ something off of their registry. But its your husband’s brother and he should decide what is appropriate 🙂

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m with you. While I realize that guests don’t have to give gifts, c’mon, it’s a wedding. Atleast bring a card! If I was in your situation, I would get something off the registry too. I don’t think I could ever not give a gift but I certainly would not be feeling overly generous. Then again, I’m an only child so I don’t really understand the whole sibling dynamic. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@snake: Nothing’s more sentimental than a hand written card… by you. If that’s you point you do the cash husband puts the cash in it.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

For the record, I wouldn’t be pleased with the no gift aspect. So I agree with you on that notion. But I still stand by it’s his brother first, so he should decide, I think anyways.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Let him make the decision, it’s his brother. I’d be upset that they didn’t give you a gift as well – but they probably couldn’t afford it.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Two of my sisters didn’t even get us a card when we got married; we’re giving both of them $250 for their weddings this summer.  In a way, I think we should give them as much as we can because they’re not in as good a place financially as we are.  Also, I kinda feel like it’s a little jab that , “Hey, you guys didn’t even give us a card, but we’re trying our best to help you out as much as we can; see what wonderful people we are?”  🙂  

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Was the brother in the wedding?  Just wondering if he “contributed” in other ways.  I know when my sister got married I got her a shower gift and paid a decent amount of $$ for the dress, shoes, and everything else and wasn’t making much money at the time, so I think I didn’t actually get her a wedding gift.  I think she understood. 

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