- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
Sorry this is long but I need help!
I recently moved to a new state because that’s where my fiance was stationed. I attend the state university here, and have made plenty of friends. My wedding is in five months, so I’ve been thinking about who I want as my bridesmaids.
I’ve only been here three months…and even though I have some good friends already, I wanted to wait a little longer to see who I was closest to and everything. I already have my maid of honor (who I asked almost a year ago)
Anyway, a few nights ago, my two friends were asking how wedding planning was coming. They asked if I had picked out all the dresses and stuff, to which I told them no because we hadn’t even figured out the wedding party yet. One of the girls immediately asked “Can us two be your bridesmaids?!” I couldn’t believe she had just asked…and couldn’t think of anything to say other than “Sure…if you want…” I was kind of upset because I couldn’t say no to my good friends…but I had wanted to give it more thought.
A reason I’m worried is they are both 18/19 year old college students and neither of them work. My mom made it clear to me that my girls would be paying for their dresses and stuff. These two girls specifically never have money on them and never want to pay for stuff. (But when it comes down to it, they are good friends and their hearts are in the right place…they’re just broke college students) I’m not sure if they are aware of everything that comes with being a bridesmaid. I feel bad because they are super excited to help me with wedding stuff and have a bridal shower and all that. But I feel like I’m going to be short changed on things…and end up paying for a lot more than I should because of who my bridesmaids are.
My maid of honor is the same age as me, and married, (so actually matron of honor!) so she knows the drill. And I feel like she’s going to clash with these two girls because they don’t really know what their job entails.
So now I need help! How am I supposed to deal with the fact that my friends asked to be my bridesmaids?! I was probably going to ask one of them, but not the other. And also…how can I make them pay for everything they need to take care of…without sounding rude? 🙁 As well as make them aware of what all they need to do for me?