(Closed) Broke for X-Mas

posted 7 years ago in Holidays
Post # 3
1061 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

We are absolutely in the same boat.  Fiance is unemployed and we are getting married 3 days after Christmas!

What about going to the Dollarstore to get his stocking stuffers?  Then, give him some “coupons” for things after Christmas.  A nice dinner, a massage… stuff like that!  You could also wait until your first pay after Christmas and pick something up during the sales!

Post # 4
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Not in your situation entirely, but definately been feeling the squeeze this year! It’s always very tempting to spend loads on others, but the fact is you really don’t have to. I think I spent less than $30 on my parents presents, and less than $60 on my SOs presents. Admittedly I don’t have a huge family to buy for (I literally buy for about 4 people, cards will do for the rest)

My SO has already said he’s got me 5 things this year, which is worrying as I have only got him 2 – but who cares, they will appreciate the time and effort you put into it, rather than how easily you opened your purse. ๐Ÿ™‚

Christmas is not worth starting the new year miserable, I’m sure you will treat your SO in other ways over the next few months upcoming ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 5
2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We are sort of in the same boat. We arent broke but we rather use the money towards our downpayment. 

I guess since we both understand the situation I dont feel even remotely bad. In the end, I am just happy to be able to spend xmas with my dh and gifts dont matter. 

Post # 6
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I am in the same situation, but I don’t feel bad about it. I’m likely not getting my husband anything, he’s not getting me anything. We both agreed our daughter has had a rough year, and our Christmas funds will go to her. My parents have refused gifts, so we’ll be having our daughter hand make them something (that’s all they really want anyway). My brothers are broke students, we’ve never exchanged gifts.

It would be nice if I could get everyone a present, but I can’t, so I don’t. I bring a nice dessert to family dinner, relax and enjoy the company.

If people are asking your Fiance what you got him, why make it awkward? Give them an answer and avoid drama. “Oh she got me a really cool espresso machine I’ve been wanting.” Everyone smiles and moves on with their day.

In my family Christmas is more for the kids, but after you graduate high school you’re not getting a present from everyone!

Post # 7
3624 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t think it’s dramatic to tell people that you didn’t exchange gifts. We can afford gifts for each other, but we usually don’t get each other anything for a variety of reasons – we don’t want clutter in our apartment, we’re saving to buy a house, we’d rather spend our money at a nice dinner or donating to charity, etc. I think people would understand, and frankly, it’s not their business anyway! Don’t worry about what other people think, just do what you’re comfortable with.

Post # 8
2742 posts
Sugar bee

I have a huge family and it’s getting to the point where folks are going to start getting cut out. Anyhow, until I moved to America, I never got a Christmas gift in my life. I’m starting to long for those days.

Post # 9
2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@bRooklynRocks: DH has a huge family too, we decided to secret santa instead of gifting every single person. 

Post # 10
2756 posts
Sugar bee

One thing you might consider that Fiance and I have done every year since we spent most of our relationship as broke college students: give each other ornaments. They can even be handmade, which will cost a fraction of what a regular gift would be. You can even get into the habit like we do of getting one another an ornament every year, which will build a special collection of personal ornaments for your tree ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 11
18641 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We haven’t really done huge Christmas things in a while, especially not this year since we are moving.  We are getting to the point where it isn’t really a big thing the day after Christmas to come to work and talk about what you got for Christmas.  We are all grown up now and don’t really get gifts, except the occasional money from our parents or grandparents.

Post # 12
2584 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I can’t afford gifts for anyone at all this year, although my family is too big to expect that so it would only be for my parents anyway. They understand. Fiance and I agreed to save our money. It’s no one else’s business how you spend your money and you Fiance seems to be okay with it, so just enjoy spending time with him on Christmas ๐Ÿ™‚

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