Post # 1
Well With this great economy and the wonderful world of construction slowing down. And the expense of paying for our own wedding. We have decided since you are debt free and would like to keep it that way that there is no room in the budget for a honeymoon 🙁 I know it is killing him because he feels like he should be able to provide better and with work being so slow this just adds to the frustration because he really wanted to take me somewhere special.
At first I didn’t mind I thought we will just hide out at home and not tell anyone where we are going..No biggy . But with only three weeks to the wedding I have been getting question after question as to where we are going..I don’t feel like telling people..Hey we can’t afford one! So I have been just saying that what we are doing is not set in stone yet. Every time someone asks it makes me feel very sad and disappointed that we can’t go anywhere .. We are both virgins and this will be the first time that we are able to spend time alone without a chaperone.
I don’t want to just be home! Tons of my family will be in town and I just want to get away from everyone and not be bothered!!! I have not told him this because I know it would make him feel even worse about the situation then he already does he is an amazing man and a very hard worker I feel like spoiled brat for feeling like this …….ughhhhh I HATE MONEY!!!
Post # 3
Did you consider registering for a honeymoon so that people can put money towards your vacation? Could you apply for a credit card that offers 0% for the first 12 months so that you won’t be racking up fees or anything?
Maybe there are other options! Otherwise, say that you are too stressed for a honeymoon now and use some money from the wedding to go on a honeymoon later on . . .
Good luck – you will enjoy the time with your husband (!) no matter what.
Post # 4
Awww hun… I’m sorry! That’s such a downer 3 weeks from your wedding…
I don’t know if you and your Fiance are into this kind of thing, but you should check out state parks!! Many of them offer rental cabins for dirt cheap, usually on a weeklong basis. The prices I’ve seen are usually $400-$700/week for a furnished cabin, but I don’t know what they’d be in your area.
Maybe take some of the cash you’ll get in cards at the wedding, then go away for a week in the fall! That would be beautiful, you’d still get a honeymoon, and it wouldn’t be super expensive. It’s not Aruba by any means, but you’ll be getting away! 🙂
Post # 5
Is there a nice hotel not too far, but far enough, that you can drive to? Maybe just go away for one evening?
Post # 6
I know exactly how you feel 🙁 We were looking for somewhere to go, but everything seemed to be out of budget. And I’m pretty sure my fiance was upset about it too, that he couldn’t take me somewhere awesome. I was getting so frustrated, I finally just started saying to him “forget it, we don’t need a honeymoon, we’ll just stay home for the week.” (even though I really, really didn’t want to…we planned to tell our families “we’re home, but pretend we’re not.” However, his parents live fairly close, and (even though they probably wouldn’t) I could just imagine them calling like 2 days after the wedding wanting us to come to their house for dinner or something). And I also told people our plans were still up in the air…I didn’t want to say we weren’t going anwyhere at all.
We did find some cabins that were pretty affordable ($115/night). They have a full kitchen, a deck with a grill, and a hot tub 🙂 We were still debating (it’s a 6 hour drive, so we wanted to stay more than 2 nights, but that would still be $350-500 depending on if we stayed 3 or 4 nights, plus gas, food, and other travel expenses), but then my grandmother offered to pay for two nights as her wedding gift, so we went for it 🙂 The place we’re going to is in Ohio, but maybe there’s something similar close to you?
Post # 7
We can’t really afford a honeymoon either. We are taking a 2 day trip just to get away and hang out. Don’t feel bad. Just say it wasn’t feasible (you don’t have to say financially, it could just as easily be other conflicts) to do it immediately, but are hoping to take a trip in the future or something.
Post # 8
There are dupliicate threads for this on the board so I’m going to close this one. The rest of the responses are here.