(Closed) Broke the Christmas Challenge

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
2018 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

He sounds so sweet!  But I don’t blame you a bit for breaking the “Christmas Challenge” ๐Ÿ™‚ I think you are very brave to leave most of the ring details to him.  And you should not feel like you are pressuring him.  You have to wear the ring for the rest of your life.  I’ve seen so many posts on this board from bees who either don’t like/love their ring.  Don’t defend yourself for wanting what you want! 

There’s a way you can both get what you want out of this process: He can still surprise you no matter what-even if you pick out the ring together.  And I know this because I went a totally non-traditional route: Researched and chose my ring (he had no other choice lol).  He ordered it and he was still the one who actually saw it first and decided when to propose with it.  We had our whole wedding planned (and booked too!) at that point and I was still completely knocked for a loop-best proposal ever, the same way everyone thinks their baby is the cutest in the world ๐Ÿ™‚  And I love my precious (to the point of obnoxiousness lol)

Anyway, fingers crossed for Christmas for you!

Post # 5
Member
2018 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Well, here’s to hoping he’s trying to do just that! You’re lucky that it’s so important that everything be “just so”.  I’m sure when it happens, it will have been worth the wait.  And the Moissy rings, well, I was eying those myself.  Bling Bling! They were hard to resist ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
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431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

So yeah, what in sam hill is this “Christmas Challenge”? Somebody wanna fill me in?  I thought it had something to do with weight loss, as challenges often do, but now I see it maybe has something to do with engagement rings?

PS: Do the men involved know of this “challenge”?

Post # 7
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431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Nevermind -found the original thread -figured it out.  A word to the wise from a married gal who was once in your shoes (minus the “Waiting Board”) -be on a permanent “Christmas Challenge.”  You’ll thank yourself later.  It takes all the fun/romance/excitement out of your engagement when you’re a nudge.  Have ONE talk with you SO -do you plan to marry me?  Set a D-Day (or E-Day as it were) date you BOTH can agree on, and if not…one final mention and then beat it.  If he wants to marry you, he will.  Otherwise, do NOT waste you time, lovely ladies.

Post # 8
Member
2018 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@eileen marie:  That’s actually very sound advice for some, but it’s a little black and white, cut and dried.  Everyone’s experience of “waiting” is different.  Having exactly two conversations about marriage is not realistic.  I “nudged” constantly and it when the proposal and the ring arrived, it was still amazing, exciting and super romantic.  In fact, I almost fainted in surprise when I saw the ring box.  This from someone who had not shut up about the wedding for one second. lol

The point is, to each his/her own.  What worked for me, might not work for you and vice-versa-there’s no “right” way to play the waiting game. 

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