(Closed) Broke up with him, he's demanding I owe him money he spent on me…

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 77
972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Can you counter sue for emotional damages from the cheating as well as blackmailing? 😉

personally I would absolutely give back anything I could and tell him there is no way you’re obligated to care about resale values or not. I’d give him the necklace, buy myself a cheap phone and erase the iPhone and give it back. If he’s only paid 10 months of gym membership, I’d personally pay that back too. And make him sign something that says he received those and whatever money. 

But I have no desire to hold onto gifts from exes. I’m too sentimental to keep them from especialy a cheating ex, and hate the feeling of owing or depending on someone else for something financially. As for dinners and dates, whatever. You gave him the gift of your valuable time. But anything more tangible-I’d just be want to be shed of anyway. No reason to hold onto it. 

Post # 78
187 posts
Blushing bee



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deedee2016 :  


Disagree, unless he has a signed paper stating she agreed to pay back for the necklace, gym membership etc. Ridiculous, whether large or small, a gift is a gift. She should laugh in his face. Just because a manipulative dick threatens to sue doesn’t mean he has a leg to stand on, it’s laughable. And that is just what I’d do, laugh in his face. 


Post # 79
2837 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse

F$#% him!!!! What a douche!!!

First of all, a GIFT is a GIFT. You don’t owe him jack because he spent money on you for a gift which is non-refundable. 

Second, he CHEATED on you for a YEAR. He’s the one that owes you. You should tell him you owe him a testicle. That should get him to back off!! 

Post # 80
894 posts
Busy bee


Reading your updates, and his talk about taking it to court? Was that settled too?

Post # 81
507 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Vineyard Lake

Under NO circumstances do you want to tell him, text him, email him that you will pay him back for ANYTHING! That he could use as “proof” that you owe him (cuz well, you said it) in court. 

You don’t need a lawyer. A court would never have you pay him back for gifts!

Tell him if he woulda kept his nasty dick in his pants you wouldn’t have broke up with him in the 1st place & he would not have felt guilted (by his OWN actions) into trying to buy your love back!!

What a dirty twat!! Just be glad you got rid of this poor excuse of a human being!!

And please don’t bother talking to or seeing this douche canoe again…

Post # 82
626 posts
Busy bee

What a jackass. I hope you know that he has zero case and would be laughed at for trying to take you to court.

Block him and never speak to him again. Your life will be better for it.

Post # 83
1201 posts
Bumble bee

Legally he has no claim to anything he gifted you during the relationship!  xo

Post # 84
931 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

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btob17 :  you can’t actually be serious…

Post # 85
3089 posts
Sugar bee

Return nothing. If you return anything, he can tell a judge that you returned it because it wasn’t a gift all along. Cut all contact. Let him sue you. The judge will laugh in his foolish face. Why are you stressing about this even a little?

Post # 86
26 posts
  • Wedding: June 2017

You really should give the gifts back. I wouldn’t even want them if I were you. Everything else should be let be.

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