(Closed) Broken engagement 4.5 months from wedding

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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Newbee

That is such a bummer that you had to go through all this and SO close to the wedding, but girl you are so incredibly SMART!! I see so many girls staying with awful men just because it is “convenient” and “we are in too deep now”. I am so glad you chose to leave him and aren’t looking back. More women need the common sense you have! Good for you 🙂 You deserve much better and all the happiness in the world. Best of luck in the future and on the job search!

Post # 18
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Helper bee

 

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Anonymousbee330:  wow you’ve seriously had a lucky escape, you ARE young(I’m 28 too, we’re still spring chickens ;P)and you’ll find someone normal, don’t let this experience with him tarnish any future relationship, he sounds like a complete narcissist with a personality disorder, he knows you can see his facebook, guarantee he’s secretly angry/hurt that you’ve dumped his a** and is trying to wind you up, block him and continue to do what you’re doing by moving on with your life, that is the best revenge!

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

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Anonymousbee330:  I hope you’re keeping the engagement ring and pawning it to help recoup some of the lost wedding deposits. Congrats on leaving that scum and here’s to starting a new chapter of your life!

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m very sorry that you have to go through this. But I can’t help but feel that it’s a positive sign that you were able to ditch this loser. Many women esp those who are fearful and lack self-esteem would not have had the wherewithal to do so. I’m confident you will come out of this even stronger and in a better place to meet the right man for you. 

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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Anonymousbee330:  You are very lucky to be getting out of this before it’s too late. Definitely a blessing in disguise!

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I am so sorry this happened to you, but as someone who has been through a divorce (with kids), it is better to find this out before the wedding.  Anyway, this sucks and I am sorry this happened to you, but I think you may have dodged a bullet!

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

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Anonymousbee330:  Sorry you are having to deal with this. You have a great attitude about everything and you are going to be so much better off in the long run without him. 

I don’t know if you have heard about these websites but I’ve recently come across them: you can list your venue and photographer dates there (I’m assuming the deposits were nonrefundable) and brides who are looking for a venue or photog at the last minute can ‘buy’ the service. Might be worth checking out to try and recoup some of your $$. 

http://www.canceledweddings.com/

http://stealmyweddingday.com/

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Call him out when he goes all emo on facebook again with his weird passive agressive statuses.<br />”Yeah, you cheated on me asshole”

Post # 26
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Blushing bee

OP, have you checked for work in warehouses? I just got a badly needed job at one of them.

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Good luck on the job hunt! Hope you find something soon. It sounds like you have your head on straight and realize this is a chance at a drama-free new beginning without a cheating, dishonest guy/relationship dragging you down. YES thank goodness you found out now before you got more into planning or married or with kids!

I personally would tell people the real reason we broke up, especially if he is spreading untrue rumors. You don’t owe him any protection and it is, after all, a fact. 

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2020

You’re a fantastic person for setting your foot down and not caving into his ridiculous story. You’re acting the survivor, not the victim, and that is very admirable. It’s difficult to stay classy when they’re dealing such low blows, but huge kudos to you for walking the higher ground. 

Personally I’ve told the “ex-stories” a matter-of-factly: he cheated, his mistress was pregnant, not hard to put two and two together. The next serious BF was the same: he cheated (invited her to a charity event, see the similarities?), I moved out and moved on. Weak men are not for me when I’m obviously a thousand times stronger, and this shows to be true for you, too!

Post # 29
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Newbee

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Anonymousbee330:  Glad you’re being strong and putting your foot down! Good for you, things will work out in the end, perservere!

Post # 30
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Newbee

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Anonymousbee330:  Glad you’re being strong and putting your foot down! Good for you, things will work out in the end, persevere!

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