Post # 1
Hi, first of all I’m so happy for all the people on the site who are getting married, congrats:)
My fiance recently broke up with me and I’m having lots of trouble getting over it, and wanted to ask for advice. We got engaged last year and have been together since we were 18. He’s my best friend and I love him very much still. For a while after we moved in together, he started acting very distant and un-interested, and first broke off our engagement and then our relationship.
We’re still friends, but I barely ever see him and we aren’t as close as we were. We were together for almost 4 years and I am just having a really hard time dealing with missing him so much and feeling sad that I won’t be marrying my best friend. Any advice would be great, thank you!
Post # 3
That is all very sad. No advice… just compassion. it will get better someday… but, for now, I think how you feel is pretty normal.
Post # 4
Oh!!! I’m so sorry! Any breakup is difficult but it’s harder after an engagement. And even more so after a long term relationship. But it will get easier. It sounds corny, but time helps. Lean on your friends and family. Get out and do something. Take a class or see a show or whatever you enjoy. There’s no magical thing you can do to get through this. You just have to tough it out until it gets easier. Which it will. Just try not to wallow.
Post # 5
@lilly29: *HUGS* Like other bees said, it just takes time. Even though it hurts now, things will get better. Be sure to keep yourself busy with hobbies, work, friends and family. Just remember you will get to marry your best friend, you just have to wait a little bit to find him. Best of luck!
Post # 6
I was in a long term relationship around the same age. We weren’t engaged but talked about it. We broke up and it was very hard. The only thing that helped was time. Tears. But time. Finding my joy and who I was outside of him was important. Now, I’m happily engaged to a man that loves me for me and adds to my joy. It May seem like the end of the world now, but each day it’ll get better.
Post # 7
I’m so sorry. 🙁 It is so hard to lose someone you love…especially when they have been your best friend for so long as well. Give yourself time to mourn and reach out to family and friends. Use this as a time to get know yourself better and pursue activities you’ve always wanted but never have. Things will get better with time!
Post # 8
Thanks so much, everyone! I really appreciate your kind words.
Post # 9
@lilly29: It will get easier…I am currently facing the same thing. My fiance and i are planning to call off our engagement. WE have been together for 9 years. I cant sleep eat or do anything. I miss him already. Its been only a week but it has been the toughest week of my life. We will both get passed this!!! One day at a time. Cry if you need to…scream if you need too…you will be ok…I truly believe that i will get passed this…somehow. I still cant believe its happened to me…hugs!!