- 4 years ago
I was with my ex-fiance for three and a half years. Our relationship was not perfect, but it was wonderful and we were happy. We survived a year of long distance early on in our relationship, and had subsequently lived together for almost two years. He is Jewish and I was raised Christian; however, I had agreed to convert to Judaism and started the conversion process as soon as we got engaged. We talked through the “hard issues” prior to engagement – finances, raising a family, location, etc. – and there was nothing we disagreed on. I truely believed we were on the same page.
He proposed to me in September of 2016. Our family and friends were there to celebrate. He orchestrated a magical night, and it was one of the happiest days of my life. Four months after the engagement, I noticed that he was acting differently – he was short with me, and was easily frustrated. When I inquired as to why he had been this way, he dismissed it as work related. Not long after this, he told me that his heart wanted to propose and move forward, but that his gut is telling him this isn’t right. In recent conversations, he claimed that he has had this feeling “for a long time, even prior to proposing, but just ignored it.” He now says that he believes he proposed because it was “the logical thing to do” and “societal pressure.” He said he wanted it to work out because everything on paper was perfect, and that’s why we took it this far.
I just do not understand how a person who claims to love you more than life and promised you the world could do something like that. It is hard for me to find “closure” in this situation and move on. I am devastated, and have never felt this low. Any advice would be much appreciated.