Post # 17
Girl you can do much better than him. you dont want to marry a man that can’t commit. Keep your heart open to others, you will find him i promise. The next is always better than the last. Chin up – you deserve someone who will ALWAYS put you first.
Post # 18
I have to chime in and agree- anyone who ends an engagement by text has serious issues! You can do this! See funny movies, go out with friends and family, get a pet, do whatever you need to take your mind off him! You already spent 3 months crying over him, don’t waste another day!
Post # 19
He seemed pretty controlling in this situation and didn’t want to compromise with you so you could also enjoy your wedding day. Nothing to me says you were insecure, but then again, I am not an expert. See if you can talk to someone…even a religious figure who can them maybe refer you to someone they know who can help you through this.
I promise he is not the only man who will love you. He seems like he has a lot of things he needs to work on before he can really love anyone. You will find someone who loves you, truly loves you, won’t rush you and control you.
Best of luck.
Post # 20
Coming from someone who also had a broken engagement, things will get better. A few years ago I thought I lost the only person who loved me..I’m engaged now to the love of my life who is a better fit for me..whom I love and loves me beyond this lifetime. You didn’t do anything wrong and you are better off to have a broken engagement than a broken marriage. It will be tough for a little while, but you’ll get through it..i promise. =)
Post # 21
It sounds to like he didnt really consider what you wanted at all and was never ready to compromise. It may not feel like it now but I think you dodged a bullet and will someday soon find someone who will be more open to get married in a way that makes u happy rather just doing what he pleases
Post # 22
I’m so sorry to hear how upset you are by this situation – and understandably. It does not sound like something fun or happy for anyone to go through. But I do hope that you can come through the other side having grown and now will be able to find someone who can love and appreciate you and totally devote themselves to you.
Of course things are going to be so difficult for awhile, but here’s hoping that something will turn around, and you will be able to find someone who can love and give themselves to you.
Post # 23
As you already know, you are not needy. And insecurity, well we all have insecurities, but these insecurities are not a factor in a broken engagement. His behavior is. The method for breaking it off only solidifies this.
It’s not easy to get over someone when you love and care about them, AND, planned on spending a lifetime with them. You can’t get over the vision of a lifetime in just a handful of weeks.
Talk with family and friends, and see a professional who can help you. Journal, take a vacation, exercise, meditate/pray. It will get better. Best of luck, as your future is now open to so many possibilities.
Post # 24
@ray22: We need an update! :o) I hope you’re happy! How are you doing two years later?