(Closed) broken foot right before the wedding, what would you do?

posted 9 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Blushing bee

Do you  have wedding insurance or is it a big hit on your finances to postpone.  How long would you postpone for?  I wouldn’t worry about other people but I would worry that you need to come to an agreement with your Fiance

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh no!! I am so sorry you’re going through this, what a nightmare!

How many nonrefundable deposits have you put down? I worry too about your guests’ travel plans — I understand all the reasons you want to postpone, but do a lot of people have nonrefundable plane tickets? 

 

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m so sorry to hear about your situation. You must be so stressed over this decision and I certainly understand how hard it will be to ultimately make. That said, I think there is a way you and your FH could compromise.

Although, it may not seem like your ideal or dream wedding, I think you’d be surprised by how joyous the day would still be if you proceeded with plans as is. (Afterall it is a celebration of your/your FH love for one another.) That said, you could always post-pone the actual honeymoon until after your foot heals. THAT way you could actually enjoy all of your planned activites with your new husband.

The second option would be to just postpone the wedding to a TBD date. While that is also not ideal, ultimately it is your wedding. However, if you choose this option I think you also have to be realistic of how your guests will feel about the cancellation. Also, guests may not be willing or able to make the new date — something else you need to consider.

I know this is not the answer you were probably hoping for, but I wish you and your FH the best. Ultimately it is what the two of you choose to do. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Aww. girl I am so sorry. For me I would have to see how much money I would lose and if we could afford it. But if we could I would delay it. I would want to enjoy our day to its fullest! But if I couldn;t I would go as planned and make it work. Enjoy it and laugh it up as much as we could. Hopfully your Fiance understand why you do want to delay it. Good luck and keep us posted!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I really hope you have great day either way.  I would try to move the date, but if you will loose too much money, then I think you can pull it off just fine.  I had a serious break in my upper arm and had surgery on it 2 days before I flew to Arizona for a two week long vacation.  Yes, it was painful at times.  But my god, pain killers are great!  And it was the best vacation with my family I ever had 🙂  My point here is that this is your day, and YOU can make it a great day with your man if you have the right mindset.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

I would probably move the date, if it were possible. But as someone else said, you have to be sure you and your Fiance can agree. I don’t know what there is to be embarassed about! What if surgury is scheduled right around the wedding day? There’s just no way you could! You can always joke and say that saying "I do" is a huge decision and you don’t want to be doped up on painkillers during that time or something along those lines. Would he feel better if you just did a small wedding now, and have a big shebang next year? Not ideal, I know, but it happens.

 

However, if you CAN’T postpone it, you need to prepare now to just put a happy face on and make the best of it. Marriage is about for better or worse, and sometimes, for worse just happens to fall on the wedding day unfortunately. Photographers can get crafty about wedding photos and you wouldn’t have to be standing in all of them. Sitting, your fiance could be holding you, maybe you can be standing on one leg with your foot up as you kiss him, etc. Walking down the isle would be tricky, but maybe you can make a little joke of it and have you Fiance walk down and you wait for him instead (I know, not the wedding you dreamed up, but it’s an idea I just wanted to throw out there). He can even carry a bouquet 🙂 Maybe dad and Fiance could help you walk down, instead of you using crutches, and I’m sure your Maid/Matron of Honor could design a special throne-type bridal chair for you to sit in, if you couldn’t stand the whole time, or one for you and Fiance so that you didn’t feel weird. The dancing part would be a little bit less fun since you couldnt enjoy it was much, but with your FI’s help, you could at least stand out there a bit with your song. Maybe put on a roller skate and he can help pull you along on one foot. I’m not sure of your personalities and all these suggestions might be too silly for the two of you, but they’re just what came to my mind. I’m so sorry this is happening. Just try to keep sight of the fact that you are marrying the love of your life, and that’s what is really important here. The rest can be recreated down the road.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Talk to your orthopedist.  Maybe you’d be in a walking cast by the wedding, and then I’d see if you could postpone the honeymoon but keep the wedding where it is.  After 10 years, I wouldn’t want to wait any longer (we’re only at 7 and I feel that way), but you could also consider a post-wedding photo shoot in your wedding clothes.

 Good luck!  I hope you’re feeling a little better. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

Honey, It doesn’t matter what we’d do. Obviously you really really want to postpone under the circumstances.  Your job now is to work things out with your fiance.  Sending you hugs and prayers.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

Hi, I’m fresh off my crutches & a walking cast myself.  I broke my foot the day before Easter, but was so fortunate not to need surgery….still some pain, but am doing ok. 

Since you asked, I will tell you…you must heal yourself before anything else.  I also work in a nursing home and have seen the ravages of old age, and you really need to focus on your health at this time. If your foot doesn’t heal right, it will be a rest of your life problem.

 As for waiting for the wedding, that I cannot advise you on, as I eloped and for me, the most important thing is that I married my husband, not the dancing or the guests, but that is just me.  Talk some more to your doctor, future husband and yourself.  Obviously you need time to heal.  Do you want it with your husband by your side or your fiance?  I was in a walking cast without the crutches in 4 weeks, when is your wedding?  Is it possible to just wait until you are off the crutches.

I really hope the best for you.  you sound amazing, waiting 10 years, but please, give yourself this time to heal.  The pain is terrible, and I would hate for you to suffer more than you need to.  good luck

I just saw you’ve rehurt it…have you been to an emergency room?  haven’t they put it in a temorary cast for you? 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

So is your fiance’s only reason for not wanting to change it that he’s worried about other people? If nobody is flying — everybody’s driving — and if money isn’t an issue, then I say postpone it for a few weeks, assuming you can find a space, caterer, etc. Could it be that your fiance is just impatient to marry you? What does he say about very practical issues you bring up, like walking down the aisle or doing your first dance?

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I personally wouldn’t reschedule my wedding over a break. For me, I can’t wait to marry FI  and I’m looking forward to being MARRIED more than anything else in the wedding. Someone posted somewhere on the boards last week that they got advice that "the wedding isn’t about you, the marriage is about you". At first, I didn’t agree but I’ve been marinating on it since the post and its true.

Do you have a lot of guests traveling for the wedding? How many people would be inconvenienced with the change? 

Ultimately, do what you feel is right for you!

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