Broken Gift – I'm the sender

posted 8 months ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
1037 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

sweatergal007 :  I mean, I guess if he asked if it got there OK I wouldn’t have lied, but why would he have asked?  I sent a thank you note immediately, so he knew it got there.

I think the reasoning behind not saying anything is that then the person 1) feels embarrassed and 2) would likely replace the gift, neither of which are necessary.

If I were the giver it wouldn’t bother me to know, but then again I would never ship it myself.  I would put the responsibility on the company in case something did happen.

Post # 18
3044 posts
Sugar bee

fredthebasil :  True, I would too. I usually ask if things get there ok when I ship because I’ve had issues in the past and usually buy the insurance. 

Post # 19
214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

ummm…RUDE! I wouldn’t buy another gift nor would I gift cash. This woman sounds so entitled I wouldn’t even be surprised if she’s lying about it being broken so you can give her the cash gift she actually wanted…

petty, I know…but people like that drive me up the wall! So sorry that she’s put you in such an awkward predicament bee 🙁

Post # 20
668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

So rude!

Post # 21
6714 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

wow that’s terrible.  “in case if you want to talk to DHL about it” would’ve been the correct thing to say..

Post # 22
1197 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Oh my gosh! Well what if it didn’t even break at all and she’s just finding an excuse to ask for something else? surprised

Post # 23
4050 posts
Honey bee

Yup, sounds pretty greedy to me. I’ve received gifts that obviously broke in the mail- I say thank you and move on. No need to make the giver feel bad and awkward about a potential “replacement gift”- it’s the thought that counts! 

Post # 24
4341 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

This is why there is insurance on packages.  I would make the claim, then give her the cash.  

Post # 25
733 posts
Busy bee

It is possible that she was imagining how she would feel if the situation was reversed. Perhaps if she found out a gift had arrived broken and she wasn’t given the opportunity to replace it she would feel embarrassed?

Also possible she is being a bit thoughtless and gift grabby. File a claim with DHL and if anything comes of it, consider finding her a new gift. I wouldn’t sweat over it thought. Gifts are not required.

Post # 26
637 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Oh wow.. I would be pissed at her. Rude much?? “Do you want to replace it” like.. Is she serious? I wouldn’t send anything else, and quite frankly, wouldn’t even acknowledge her comment. Talk about greedy.

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