(Closed) Broken Heart

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Have you attempted to contact her over the past two years?  Did she have any reason (a falling out maybe) to write you out of her life 2 years ago?  I’m sorry you’re feeling so hurt.

Post # 5
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4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@a10a9204:  Perhaps it is your relationship – or lack thereof? – with your daughter that caused this situation you are now facing. I don’t know, you didn’t give us much to go on.

Post # 6
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6745 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@a10a9204:  Are you saying you have been?  Or haven’t been invited?

Have you tried to contact her and tell her you planned on being there for her wedding? 

Have you only realized now, a few days before the wedding, that you weren’t invited?

Post # 9
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9650 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@a10a9204:   I understand you’re upset.  Do you feel it’s your daughter’s wish for you not to attend her wedding?  Does she have a way of reaching you?

Try to see things from her side.  She may be your little girl but she’s also a grown woman getting married.  And it’s HER DAY.  Please don’t show up univited to the wedding, that wouldn’t be right.  You would only cause a disturbance.

Try to get in touch with her to get an invitation if you can.  If not, respect your daughter’s wishes and stay away for now. 

I don’t think anyone here can help you find her venue, anyway.  We have no way of doing that.

Post # 10
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7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@a10a9204:  Hi Pete,

I don’t think anyone one here is going to help you find out where a wedding is that you haven’t been invited to.  To be honest, it sounds like you’re interested in having people see you in your uniform than actually having a relationship with your daughter.  It also does not sound like you respect her feelings or wishes since you’ve said you just want to walk in, kiss her, then leave although you know it will be upsetting.

Sorry if this seems obvious or unkind, but wouldn’t the time to try to get in touch with her have been over the past 8 years?

Post # 12
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9627 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

I agree with @Juliepants:  please don’t gatecrash the biggest day of your daughter’s life, reach out to her beforehand, and if she invites you great, if not, you’ll have to accept that. but definitely keep trying to build a relationship with her after her wedding

Post # 14
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182 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@a10a9204:  First off, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. We rarely see or hear these situations from a father’s perspective. I understand its painful but as PP mentioned please do not show uninvited, it will only cause drama and stress for your daughter. However, if you still want to make one last effort….is there a close family member whom you still communicate with, who is also close to your daughter? If so, you can try to reach out to this person to send a message to your daughter? Maybe she will be more open to listening to “the message” from a 3rd party? Or at the very least, you can send her a wedding gift maybe? Good luck!

Post # 15
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9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

How did you find out she was engaged?  

Post # 16
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7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@a10a9204:  I’m so sorry, but if you’ve been reaching out to her and she’s still not responding….I don’t know.  I think you might damage your relationship further if you just show up.  I can see how hurt you’re feeling.

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