Post # 1
Oh wow, I am so SO sad. I volunteer at the really large animal shelter and after Fiance ended our relationship, I decided I would take in a foster kitty for some company/to help an animal in need. I had fostered once before, but that cat was a wild one and I didn’t develop any serious feelings toward it. I thought now would be a good time so the animal and I could mutually get some love. I picked up the 10 year old, XL cat a little over two weeks ago. She was put on the foster list because she had been at the shelter for a number of months, and the adoption counselors wanted her to have a “foster vacation” to get her spirits up again. The transition to having her was fairly easy; the only struggle was she has claws and despite me having 5 different kinds of scratching posts around the apartment, she preferred to scratch at my wool rug. I would find her with tufts of wool in her claws. She also took to scratching at the rest of my upholstered furniture even though i would try to encourage using the posts by playing on them and giving out treats and pets when she used them appropriately.
anyways, we slowly started to bond and get along really well. She is so incredibly sweet. She is so chatty (especially when she wants food!!), follows me around, comes over when I talk to her, and would sit by me on the floor. Her purring was so loud and cute. Over the past few days, she started to sit on the couch with me and finally came up on my bed to sleep by me last night. The shelter coordinators said her fostering time was complete and to bring her back. I just did so a few hours ago and I am so so sad. I can’t stop crying. I know fosters develop bonds with the animals, but I feel heartbroken and my apartment is so empty and sad. It would be hard for me to keep her, the whole claw scratching situation was pretty exhausting, and declawing is NEVER an option, nor is using soft paws. She is overweight and probably diabetic, and I don’t know if financially I could support a sick kitty. Also, I live in a studio apartment, and because I am allergic, there is really no where to go to escape from the dander in the air. I keep looking over at the chair she would sit in and get sad. I miss her little face. What if she doesn’t find her forever home? I try to console myself with the fact that fostering helps little ones who are sad, but the thought of her in her cage at the shelter scared and sad is so heartbreaking. i don’t know if I should rethink keeping her. :_(
Post # 3
Also, sorry if that was long. I get long-winded when I’m sad.
Post # 4
Maybe you could try a dog instead? Certain breeds are hypo-allergenic, and they are much easier to train than cats if you are worried about your furniture.
As far as this particular cat, I wonder why soft paws aren’t an option? My cats have them on all 4 feet, and it has never bothered them. Really, it is up to you how much it is worth keeping this particular cat. If she is worth it, then you will make it work. If not, there are other (short haired, non destructive) cats to choose from! Sounds like you could use a friend!
Post # 5
Aww, that is very sad, but you’re a good person and I would encourage you to give it another shot! My cat scratched up my couch but after awhile he took to this cheap scratching pad that I filled up with catnip. He never scratches up the couch now! I’m also in a studio and my Fiance is allergic to the cat but the irritation has lessened A LOT over time. Have had the cat for 4 years now. He also used to yell and screech at night and I didn’t get any sleep for 6 months. Sometimes kitties have been through tough times–I know mine had quite a lot before I got him–and so it takes them awhile to sort themselves out. I don’t regret keeping him at all–he’s been great.
Hugs from me and Jack! You will figure it out!
Post # 6
I had thought soft paws were a good idea, but the vets I have talked to are not fans of using them (especially on adult cats) because they do not allow the claws to retract. Apparently on older cats this becomes incredibly troublesome because it alters how they walk or use their claws, and they often (or so I’ve been told) bite at them until they come off.
Post # 7
So sorry to hear what you’re going through 🙁
If you are allergic, DO NOT keep the cat. Despite living with cats my entire life, I recently developed allergies. I have a one bedroom at the moment, and my eyes burn, my nose runs constantly, and I can’t exercise. I had a cat for the past six years, but after a year of suffering with the allergies, had to rehome her (luckiy, to a relative). It was one of the most emotionally difficult things ever, but about two months of her living away, I can finally live in my apartment without feeling absolutely sick.
And just an FYI- the darker and longer a cat’s fur is, the more it will aggrevate allergies.
Post # 8
When I had her and had thoughts of keeping her, I had pondered whether having a larger apartment would help. I decided though if I did move solely to accommodate having a cat, I would officially cross the line to becoming a crazy cat lady.
Allergies are so funny — exFI had a long haired cat, and it didn’t bother my allergies one bit.