(Closed) Broken Heart

posted 8 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2009 - Small church ceremony with mountain-view log cabin reception

aww, I’m sorry:( I don’t really have any advice, but I’m sure this can be tough.. Hopefully with the change in season things will improve?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

🙁 so sorry to hear… maybe you should your husband a shot in his sleep (kidding) dont do that.. but hopefully something works out so you can keep you doggie

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

@Beansy: Aww I’m sorry. But if he isn’t willing to take pills or get shots there’s nothing you can do. I would be really angry with my SO if he pulled a bait and switch like that.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I would be devastated, and I can’t believe your Fiance isn’t willing to do anything to help you. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Im so sorry! I hope that yall can work something out to where you can keep him! 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

Is there a reason WHY he won’t take pills or get shots? It sounds like you’re doing everything possible to help. Your Fiance KNEW he was allergic, and that’s why you chose the dog you did.

For the record–no dog is totally hypoallergenic. Just like with cats, it’s saliva and dander that trigger allergic reactions. Some dogs shed significantly less and some dogs are tiny (like yorkies) and that affects the size of the allergic reaction. But all dogs shed and produce saliva to some degree. 

To be quite blunt–your Fiance did a stupid and irresponsible thing. Shame on him for agreeing to a dog, doing the research, then deciding he doesn’t want to do his part in controlling his allergies. I’m furious with him on your behalf.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

@Beansy: He should have weighed those options before you got the pup. The pills and inhaler sound like the better option, although his reasoning to me is just that he doesn’t feel like doing it. It’s not convenient to his lifestyle. Well he shouldn’t have agreed to a puppy then. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - MacLean Park

@MissHoneyBun: It sounds like he did weigh things a little bit. If she had trials with other Yorkies no problem, there’s really nothing to prepare them that things could get that bad.

Honestly, I don’t think someone should be expected to take daily pills/shots/inhaler just to keep a pet, when it puts your health at risk. Asthma attacks are serious business, and you don’t really want to dance with that danger. Yes, he probably should have considered what would have happened if it didn’t work, but with OP’s excitement and initial good “test” results, why have that worry, you know? It sounds like he originally wanted to make you happy, and now that it’s a health issue, he’s not too keen on the pup anymore.

If the coin were reversed, and he loved say, a Komodo Dragon (sorry so random, I just wanted to pick a “man pet” that you wouldn’t necessarily love, like another dog or cat!), but the dragon gave you bad hives, would you take pills or shots to keep it, when it would cost thousands of dollars? I don’t know, personally, I can say that I wouldn’t do it either. Maybe I’m hard-hearted, but I just can’t see myself taking daily pills or getting injections or suffering health risks just to keep a pet indoors. It seems like he gave it a shot and tried to make it work for you, but it just doesn’t seem like it’s working out for him.

So my question is, is it fair for you to keep something that makes you happy, but makes his health suffer?

Post # 13
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Have you tried bathing the dog more often (at least 1x/week)?  I have severe allergies and asthma and when we slack on baths for our pup, even with my daily allergy and asthma meds I’ll start wheezing and having really bad reactions to him.  That said, I love my dog and refuse to get rid of him much to the dismay of my allergy doc.  When I told the doctor I wasn’t getting rid of the dog, he suggested we bathe him with Head & Shoulders to reduce dander.  I haven’t tried it since we manage with once a week baths but might be worth a shot?  My dog is also a terrier but he keeps lots of dust and other outdoor allergens in his fur so the extra baths help.  

Good luck!  

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

@sand dollar: I thought she meant that her sister brought her yorkies over AFTER they got the pup. For like a play date. Now I see what she meant. Still, being around them for a few hours and living with one is different. My dad had bad asthma growing up and into my teens. Cats set him off, but his inhaler keeps it at bay. My mom loves cats. I do, too. Cats are non-negotiable. Maybe he should see a doctor. We don’t know from this post just HOW bad his allergies are. Watery eyes are different from lungs that don’t work. I maintain though, that it was a bad decision to go along and then change his mind. 

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

High qualtiy food (especially going to a raw diet) can reduce dander.

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@abbyful: Very true.

You aren’t just combating the fur, some allergies are to pet dander or saliva.

Also, yorkies are not hypo-allergenic they just are low (or no) shedders so there is a reduction in fur shed.

The only truly hypo-allergenic pets are the genetically engineered ones.

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