(Closed) Broken, lost and confused!

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Sugar bee

If you still love your Fiance, what are you doing dating and sleeping with his uncle?

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

I hope this a troll post, because only a spectacularly horrible girlfriend would do this =\ 

Post # 5
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Busy bee

Why on God’s green earth would you put yourself in this type of situaion? You know once you tell your Fiance he’s not going to be happy about it. I feel he’s probably going to call the wedding off 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Troll. Begone.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

On the off chance this is real: Some people may not like hearing this, but my number one piece of advice is to go to Planned Parenthood and get an abortion. You are very young, you likely do not have a job that can afford a child, your Fiance is in prison, and you are cheating on him with one of his much older family members. It doesn’t appear that you know about or used birth control (??) as you didn’t mention anything about it. This has DISASTER written all over it. You have your entire life to have a baby. Don’t ruin your life by making this terrible situation even worse.

Next, break up with you Fiance and the uncle. Don’t see them. Take some time to figure out who you are. Frankly 19 is way way too young to get married no matter what, and especially with this train wreck of a situation.

Seriously sweetie. Your whole future is stretched out in front of you, and it can either be great or go very badly. This is a crucial moment. Make the smart move here. Not the one where you have a baby or you get married to a drug addict felon. Be strong and do your future self a favor!! And for the love of god, use birth control from now on.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

Pregnancy or not you should fully remove yourself from this family all together.  They are bad news.

I can’t fathom why you are still pretending to be engaged with a wedding date set.  The Uncle, who is 19 years your senior is a selfish and gross individual who took advantage of you when you were vulnerable and in need of support.

You (ex) Fiance has a criminal record and history of illegal drug use.

I’m not sure how either option could lead to a happy, loving and full-filling future.

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper

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sadandconfusedbride : 

Far fetched, but life can be as messed up as fiction: 

“I’ve always wanted a baby but I feel like this isn’t the right time and situation to bring a child into…”

This is an understatement. 

“and I have no idea what I am going to say to my Fiance or his parents…”

“Goodbye.” 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

The uncle is bad news for sure. Your “fiancé” is also bad news. Give this baby up for adoption, get out of this family and never look back. 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

“I do want a father figure in my child’s life, I suppose the question is whether that figure should be my Fiance or his uncle.”

I am going to guess that you do not have congenital visits with Fiance and creepy Uncle already knows of the pregnancy so there is no question about who the father is.

Why would Fiance even be willing to father a child that is not his, but his Uncles and with a woman who had an affair on him?

How will the entire family react when they learn the truth?  Do you expect to be welcomed with open arms?

I am not normally for abortion but in this situation I do think you should consider your options including adoption. I don’t think either man is qualified to be a good father in any way. This is an awful and unfair predicament to bring a child into.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Things you should do/what I would do, sorry if this is harsh:

1. Move out of that house ASAP

2. Break up with Fiance who has serious issues 

3. Break up with old Unc

3. Get an abortion

4. Never look back

Post # 15
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Honey bee

Beg your parents to let you move back home, come to terms with the fact that they were right and someone who moves out because their parents are nags clearly is not mature enough to handle marriage or any grown-up situation on their own yet because you pretty much just proved them right, get yourself out of this toxic situation, and get yourself some counseling to go over your options and decide whether you should keep this baby or raise it on your own.

That doesn’t mean your child will be without a father, should you keep it.  It just means you will be without a very poorly thought out relationship with the father because creating a relationship with the man you cheated with who is related to your whatever the hell the jailbird is to you now is stupid. 

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