(Closed) Broken, lost and confused!

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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616 posts
Busy bee

GTFO!!!! Of all of it!!!

Post # 17
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1984 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

sadandconfusedbride :  well I doubt that Fiance will want to be a father figure for a kid who his creepy semi-child-predator uncle fathered with his girlfriend….. 

If you don’t believe in abortion, it’s incredibly irresponsible to not use birth control. What on earth were you thinking?? This is how young girls ruin their lives. 

What about adoption? This is not a good situation in which to raise a child, PERIOD! This would be the best way to give you and the baby the best chance at a happy, fulfilling life. You both deserve that! πŸ™‚

Otherwise, I don’t see a good solution to this disaster of a situation, but I will say that being honest with everyone involved is always the best way to improve a very bad situation. Good luck.  

Post # 19
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2017

sadandconfusedbride :  How old is the uncle and why is he not living on his own? It sounds like neither he or your Fiance are good father material. Maybe you should move back in with your parents and raise this baby on your own. No father is better than a bad one.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee

KittyYogi :  πŸ™ŒπŸ‘πŸ™ŒπŸ‘ Best advice ever! No sarcasm, you were spot on.

Post # 21
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Busy bee

sadandconfusedbride :  If you were craving attention you went to the wrong person for that. You knew all along that you are engaged. But anyway what is it that you want to do about the baby will you be able to take care of he/she? If not I suggest to put the baby up for adoption. And like some said earlier cut all communication with both your Fiance and the uncle. It’s a bad thing when you cheat but It’s worse when It’s with a family member. Honestly be prepared cause I seriously don’t think your Fiance will get over that. He might tell you he forgives you, But trust me he will be bringing it up to you especially when you are in an argument. Best thing to do is cut all ties and start over with someone new.

 

Post # 22
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Buzzing Beekeeper

sadandconfusedbride :  “I do want a father figure in my child’s life, I suppose the question is whether that figure should be my Fiance or his uncle.”

You can’t just wave a wand and decide who will be the father figure to your child.

I highly, highly doubt that your Fiance will ever be a father figure to this child. If you’re going to bring this baby into the world, you need to prepare for the absolute worst case scenario, which is you raising him or her entirely on your own. It is extremely unlikely your Fiance will be in the picture given that (1) you cheated on him with his much older uncle and this baby is his uncle’s and (2) he has drug problems and may be in and out of prison for most of the child’s life. And I wouldn’t bank on the uncle being an involved parent if he’s the type to think carrying on an affair with his nephew’s fiancé nearly 20 years his junior is a good idea.

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Can’t believe you’re still calling your Fiance your Fiance. Sorry to be harsh but why would he want to be with you after this? I believe in abortion opposed to screwing up another human beings life that didn’t ask for it. It’s one thing for life to happen after ideal circumstances were created for the child, but it’s completely another to subject an innocent being to a shit show. This is 100% a shit show and you can’t fix this. You should have never slept with his uncle and I wouldn’t have stayed with someone in jail for drugs either. What a way to start a new life. No thank you. 

Move out of his parents house, get an abortion,  come clean. End of story. 

Post # 25
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Honey bee

sadandconfusedbride :  Well, congrats.  You got it all figured out then.  What’s the point of this post?  

Get a job.  Maybe two or three.  And then you move out and be a mom.  Done.

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

PrincessPeach13 :  hey thanks bee. On deaf ears unfortunately… It’s sad to see this kid choosing to probably willfully ruin her life πŸ™

Post # 27
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Oh girl.  This is a mess.  A MESS.  Your finace’s uncle is an AWFUL man, and you are awful for doing this to your fiance.  That being said, you are INSANELY young to get married, plus, quite frankly, don’t marry a druggie.  You may love him and all that, but he is bad news.  This whole FAMILY is bad news.

You need to get out of that house.  As soon as humanly possible.  You not being able to afford it isn’t an excuse.  Find a friend to stay with.  A relative.  A woman’s shelter.  You cannot stay in that house.  Move on from all this.

You say you want to raise this child…but seriously think about adoption or abortion, because you have no idea what you’re in for.

Post # 28
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I said abortion, not adoption. I wouldn’t bring a child into that crazy shitshow of a situation. 

Post # 29
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Buzzing Beekeeper

annabananabee :  yeah, this.

OP, sounds like you’re not going to move out, you’re not going to have an abortion or consider adoption, and you’re going to have and raise the baby no matter what and no matter who is or is not in the baby’s life…… so what advice are you looking for exactly? 🀨

Post # 30
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166 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

sadandconfusedbride :  looks like you already decided on what you’re gonna do; why ask for advice then? If you were hoping for some kind words that everything is gonna be okay… most of us are much older than you are, you have no idea how much drama is coming for you. 

I’m against abortion, but in your case I would do it. Or adoption. Or move to another state, something! I wish much luck to you, you are about to ruin your life πŸ™

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