(Closed) Brother about to propose for 2nd time

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
1338 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

When is his wedding going to be? I think the only way you can be upset and be justified in your feelings about another close friend or family wedding is if they choose the same day or RIGHT before or after. ANything else, no, you don’t have a right to be upset over. You only get one day! You can feel this way but definitely don’t voice it.

Post # 3
7555 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Stop being a brat!!

Post # 4
3056 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

You get one day. Be happy for others. Your friends will likely start families and buy homes about the same time you do. You will be happy for them & they will be happy for you.

Post # 5
2274 posts
Buzzing bee

We recently experienced “the year of 7 weddings”.  Went to all of them loved every single one all different all FABULOUS.

Don’t compare yourself or your situation to anyone else. “……stop being a brat about this”  because you will never gain as much as a pinch of extra happiness from doing so.

Sharing the happiness of others multiplies it. Begrudging another of their happiness diminishes yours.


Post # 6
381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

It might feel like all the weddings are crowding around yours but in reality, unless they are literally the same week, you probably won’t notice. 

I‘m getting married next month and we have a good few other weddings to go to this year – we’re just at that age! Wanting or expecting exclusive rights to a chunk of the year is just unrealistic – hopefully once you get into the planning of the wedding, you’ll realise that it’s your special day and no amount of other weddings in the months preceding or following will change that.

I for once can’t wait to go my first wedding with my H2B as a married couple a few weeks after ours!

Post # 7
1593 posts
Bumble bee

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Roman89 :  Are you feeling overwhelmed? Weddings are stressful, but only if it’s your own. The thought of 7 weddings feels like too much, but remember you’re going to be a guest and all you have to do is show up and have a good time. I honeslty wish there were other weddings happening around mine because I’m so sick of planning and the stress of my own, but I still want to go to a wedding and enjoy it.

Post # 8
3452 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

6-7 months is a pretty long period of time. The joy and happiness of close family and friends should not take away from your own, it should add to it!

Post # 9
3848 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014


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Roman89 :   Would it be possible to have the smaller wedding you originally wanted later this year?  

Post # 10
1114 posts
Bumble bee

I think the fact that this is your brother’s second wedding is irrelevant. I get you’re emotional but pointing it out more than once makes you sound extra petty.

Your wedding will be special to you and those you love. Happiness is not a finite resource. Let it go and have fun planning your wedding.

Post # 11
640 posts
Busy bee

You get one day to be your “special day”. Not a 6-7 month time span. Let it go and stop seeing your wedding as being in competition with others. 

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