(Closed) Brother and SIL are moving to our apartment complex….. FML

posted 6 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

Well, at least they’re not moving into the same apartment as you. And don’t give her a key to your place, b/c then she’ll start helping herself to your things while you aren’t there. So at least you’ll be able to start to control that aspect of things.

And if they do truly party all night, maybe the neighbors will get sick of them and call the cops on them for a noise disturbance! There’s only so much you can do, and you can’t do anything about this situation. So just try to make the best of it!!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Duuude I feel your pain. My SIL & her husband broke their year long lease (paid $3000 to do so btw) so they could move ACROSS THE HALL FROM US.

Mind you they’ve lived together for 3 years, they couldnt give SO(at the time, now DH) a day to ourselves. They scheduled their move-in day, since the complex wasnt finished being built yet, as the same day as ours. She picked the same building..same floor, literally across the hall.

So trust me it could be worse lol at least you *might have a building between you.

I loved my SIL until she moved in across the hall, she wore our her welcome quickly. She comes over AT LEAST once a night, the most was 8 times in one day. Since her mom is raising her toddler, I get to have my Mother-In-Law & neice over EVERY %#$^ing day too.

You would not believe how many problems this has caused between Darling Husband and I. Naturally he doesnt mind seeing them daily, but I do. I buy groceries for myself, not for her to borrow everyday.

Find somewhere else to live, save yourself the headache now. Im not even joking.

Post # 6
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1279 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

RVG1010 don’t sign that lease look somewhere else…..you will live to regret it….if you still want to have a relationship with your brother and niece live far away……

Post # 7
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1327 posts
Bumble bee

Thats sucks royally… My Mother-In-Law lived down the street from us, that was bad enough with all her “drop in’s”. I would lose my mind if my in-laws lived in the same building as us.

Post # 8
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561 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Omg, I would be so miserable if my sister and her SO, or anyone in my family lived in the same apartment complex as me! Mine is small as well, only eight units. I love my family, and I love living close to them, but I need my own space away from them! It’s nice to have a place that is my own, and is away from family (and even friends). Look for a new apartment! If I were in your situation I would end up resenting them (or being embarassed, doesn’t sound like they’re planning on being very considerate of their other neighbors!). Sounds like you are craving separation from them already anyways. I wish you luck, whatever you choose! Congratulations on finding a place to lvie with your Fiance, wherever it may be.

 

Post # 9
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1406 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I agree with PPs and if possible I would look for a new place to live.  I had a coworker move in next door to me while I was in college…literally across the hall.  She had parties all the time and people were always banging on my door trying to get me to come over especially when I had huge projects.  She got evicted and begged me to let her stay with me.  I barely knew her.  When I refused, she told everyone at work what a horrible person I was to not let her crash at my place…wth?

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

A plus side is that you wont be under the same roof so a whole new set of rules applies there. She won’t have east access to your things if you don’t let her *don’t give them a key*  This is a fresh start to setting better boundries when it comes to barrowing.

Post # 11
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2105 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If you can’t find a new place in time, make sure you set up the boundaries early. Make it clear that dropping by is not acceptable. “Oh I’m sorry, we can’t have you on right now. We are busy. Why don’t you give us a call next week and we can plan a get-together. 

Also, don’t feel bad if you have to file a noise complaint with the community center/local police. They can do it anonymously. Everyone deserves peace and quiet in their living area, especially on weeknights. 

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