- 4 years ago
Looking for a little advice on my current situation with my brother and his wife.
Without making this a novel, a little bit of a background:
I literally can count on two hands how many times I have seen my SIL since the entire time that she has been (and now married) to my brother. I had only met her about three times when he decided to get engaged to her. This really surprised me and my family since we come from a tight knit family. She invited me to be apart of the wedding party, which I thought was nice. Ever since then, it was all down hill.
During the wedding planing she sent me nasty text messages and her mother called my parents asking for several grand to help towards the wedding. This put a really bad taste in my mouth- Basically people we hardly know being incredibly ballsy and rude to my family and myself. Ever since then, I always have been plesant with her, but kept her at a distance because of the way she treated me.
Since their wedding over two years ago, they rarely come around our family. They have missed my parent’s birthdays, father/mothers day, my 30th birthday party because she planned their anniversary trip over that weekend, even though their anni was two months before. My boyfriend and I bought a house a year ago, and she still has never seen it. My brother only saw it once when he helped us move in. They only times I get to see them is when I have to drive to their house.
Before she was in the picture, my brother always made a point to remain close with all of us. My boyfriend and I make a point to be close with both his family and mine, so this behavior is worrying and not like him. My parents have made comments to him, but his behavior has not changed.
They are having a BBQ this weekend, and it is causing me so much anxiety. I have a hard time putting on a happy face when I know things are weird. I hate how my brother has changed. I also get anxious because they are TTC, and I can see my family and I rarely being able to see the future baby.
Thanks for reading…. I guess this was longer than I expected. I know my brother is an adult and free to make his own choices, but I just have a gut feeling like something is wrong and as time goes on my anxiety about them gets worse. What would you do? Also, any time I have tried to hang out with him by himself, she always ends up coming along, so she basically c*ckblocks me trying to talk to him.