- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
OK – so me and my fiance just got engaged two weeks ago. TWO WEEKS. We haven’t even told all of our family yet because were waiting till Christmas to see them.
A few months ago my brother told us all he was planning on proposing in the summer of 2011 – because they wanted to get married a year later (summer 2012) which was right before their senior year. I guess they talked about rings and stuff and i was seriously ecstatic for them because i love his girlfriend and think their perfect together.
Then yesterday we were christmas shopping and we walked past a kay jewelers and my mom was like – so show me what kind of rings your looking at for Alicia (his girlfriend)… so we went in and started looking – showed my mom what she wanted etc. and we went home.
Today i wake up and my mom tells me, that her and my brother were going to the store to buy the ring. I was like um, what? I thought he wasnt going to propose until next summer – i guess they decided to go anyways since it was on sale.
At this point i still didn’t care that much. So me and my fiance decided to go to the mall with them – we get there and my mom is trying to convince him to propose to his girlfriend next week! She was saying things like “don’t you want to propose before you go back to school?” (even though theyll be home for spring break AND summer vacation -which is when he wanted to propose in the first place)… and she was telling him he should propose on Christmas eve and new years eve and was saying all these ideas for him.
This is where i started getting pissed. I don’t mind if were engaged at the same time – but it would really upset me if he got engaged in a week – and then come christmas night when im telling my family about my engagement – he is too.
I’m not really upset with my brother at all for buying the ring or anything (i do think it’s strange my mom gave him a couple hundred dollars to pay for it – since he didnt quite have enough because he thought he’d have 3 or 4 more months to buy it!) but i am PISSED at my mom.
I don’t know how to handle the situation – i told my brother that when he proposes im going to be really happy for them but it was making me mad how energetic and pushy my mom is being towards them and how we just got engaged 2 weeks ago. Like i said we haven’t even told all of our family or picked a date yet (were waiting to tell people at Christmas – because we wanted to tell them face-to-face instead of over the phone or facebook)
I said to my mom – don’t you think he’d want to wait a few weeks so were not telling everybody at the same time? – and she said “don’t you think your being kind of ridiculous” – he has to wait a couple weeks just because you two got engaged?
AM I BEING RIDICULOUS?
My fiance told me that when his brother got engaged (which was out of the blue – he had only been with his girlfriend for 3-4 months before getting engaged) that he was planning on proposing the weekend after that but decided to wait a couple months because he didn’t want to be in competition with him for all the engagement stuff (sharing the news, engagement parties, setting dates etc.) and I’m very happy he did that.
So yeah, now that i got everything out i feel a little better but im still kind of mad about the situation and especially at my mom… do you think i’m out of line? Or do you think that it should be expected for my brother to wait a couple more weeks at least to propose. At least giving us the time to tell everyone.