(Closed) Brother in bridal party

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Sugar bee

I would ask your brother to stand on your side. I’ve been to weddings with bridesmen and it’s not weird at all and it won’t be in your case, especially because everyone knows he has a closer relationship with you as his sister than your Fiance as his (F)BIL.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Fiance has 2 brothers, I have 2 brothers. Neither of us have any sisters or close female family members. None of the brothers are married and only 1 is in a serious relationship but I have only met her a few times, so no SILs either.

Fiance is having his 2 brothers and his 2 best friends (male) on his side. I am having my 2 brothers and my 2 best friends (female) on my side. 

Definitely gotten some side eye and grief from people about my brothers on my side. It’s such BS. I don’t plan on changing my mind. 

OP have your brother on your side if you want. I see the bridal party as “these are the people who have stood by our side, made us who we are, and who have supported this relationship and will continue to support our marriage”,  not props/decor. Lol. Nothing against people who’s “most important people” do follow the dividing of the sexes rule, some people’s just don’t.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

If you want him on your side, he can stand there for 15 minutes. We’re having a “bridesman” and a “best woman,” which is NOT a popular decision in my family, but whatever. Do what makes you happy!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

This is your brother and you want to include him so yes, he should be on your side.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

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houstonsweetcorn:  i had an Maid/Matron of Honor, 2 bridesmaids, and my brother stand on my side, 4 total.  DH had 1 best man and 4 groomsmen, 5 total on his side.  

it was exactly how i wanted it. 

if you want him on your side, you should.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I’m having my brother stand on my side – I am having my brother, sister and my bestie (female). My Fiance is having his sister, his bestie (female) and a good friend (male). I’m just calling them all the “wedding party” and treating all the women the same regarding dresses, etc. But we are really not traditional.  My sister had me and my brother and my Brother-In-Law had his three sisters.

It doesn’t matter. It’s 2016 – do what you want to do.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I am having 3 bridesmaids and 2 bridesmen, then my fiance is having 3 groomsmen and 2 groomsladies

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I had two guys (+ 4 bridesmaids & 2 flowergirls) in my bridal party; my best friend in the entire world -who I lived with for 8 years- and my twin brother who would follow me to the ends of the earth if I asked him to – and I’ll be doing the same for them at their wedding later this year

I think you’re way overthinking this and should totally have him stand up there with you! 🙂

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

All 3 of my brothers are in our wedding and standing on my fiance’s side. 

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

My brother is standing on my side and FI’s sister and female best friend are standing on his side. We picked who we are closest to regardless of gender. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee

My brother was a groomsman and stood on my husband’s side. His sister was my bridesmaid and stood on my side. I think you can do whatever you prefer, and perhaps ask your Fiance his preference as he may not care or he may have a very strong opinion on it. 

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’d say do what you and your Fiance want.  My brother was a groomsman, DH’s sister was a bridesmaid.  We just wanted to incorporate them both in the wedding party, rather than focusing on who should be on which side.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

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houstonsweetcorn:  Do what you want to do! I’ve seen both bridesmen and groomswomen. 

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