(Closed) Brother in Law drama!!!

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@davinanageleyes:  Your BIL is being unreasonable. At lots of weddings the best man and chief bridesmaid are married to other people. Like you say, it’s only a short time they need to link arms.

Although he’s not saying, I’m guessing the reason is his wife’s not happy with it.

If he’s not prepared to do this, then your fiance should find (or threaten to find) a different best man. Why should your sister be demoted from chief bridesmaid because your BIL is being silly? And yes, I agree with you, if he wants a precious moment with his sister, he can do that another time. This is yours and your fiance’s day. So you and your fiance decides what happens, the best man doesn’t. The best man’s job is go along with it.

Or if it’s not that big a deal to you, you could let the best man and chief bridesmaid just walk side by side. (To me that’s giving in to silliness, but maybe it’s the easy option). A question to ask: Did the best man need to link arms with the chief bridesmaid at your BIL’s wedding?

Post # 4
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Busy bee

 +1 @paula1248. Just a thought, maybe you can also ask them to bring a long piece of fabric instead of linking arms?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

@davinanageleyes:  That is a little much. My husband and I are very respectful of eachother when it comes to the opposite sex but linking arms in a wedding would never even cross our minds as something inappropriate.  If he is unwilling, how about he just put his right arm over his stomach and she just holds her bouquet with both hands? It really isn’t a big deal not one will think anything of it.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

I agree with PPs, he needs to grow up.  It’s a 20 step walk.  I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in a friend’s wedding and I walked down the aisle with a groomsman who was married to the Maid/Matron of Honor.  Its not a big deal at all.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Oh for christ’s sake. He’s linking arms with her, not sticking his dick in her.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It sounds silly to me.  I think it is good manners for any man to offer his arm to a woman when they are walking together.  It’s a gentlemanly thing to do.  I don’t think that is construed as anything close to cheating on a spouse or anything.

That being said, I would probably just swap them around or maybe have the groomsmen wait at the front and not walk up the aisle with the ladies.  Fighting with someone so unreasonable is probably not going to be fun or end well.

My FI’s best man is married to one of my bridesmaids.  I wondered if it would cause any problem to ask them to walk with other people than their spouse, to do the traditional Bridesmaid or Best Man with Maid/Matron of Honor, but they are perfectly fine with it. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@distracts:   Baaahahahahahahaaaaa … +10000000

 

I agree with evryone else, he is being rediculous! I also agree with PP, that it is his wife that is causing the drama. Tell him suck it up or step down.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@Sheepshead:  LOL! I agree, but I also know from experience. I had to ask my FI’s brother’s wife to be a bridesmaid, just so that FI’s bro could be his grromsman. At a wedding we went to, Future Brother-In-Law was a groomsman and Future Sister-In-Law flipped out when he walked down the (tiny) aisle with the other woman. It was absolutely insane!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@distracts:  I think I am in love hahaha +1

Yeah he really needs to get over himself, it all just sounds like high school drama.  Maybe have Fiance speak to him be like dude you’ll be walking with her for like 30 seconds I don’t think it will have any affect on your marriage, be a good brother and walk with her.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

He wants to act like a child than treat him like one.  I would tell him that your sister isn’t even the slightest interested in him so there is no reason to worry about his marriage, if he’s that worried maybe he should seek marraige counceling, and if he doesn’t want to walk next to your sister he wont be walking down the aisle.  I’m sure your fiance wont be happy with that idea but his is being an annoying little brat.  Whatever you do I beg of you don’t give into his demands.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

@distracts:  Bwahahahahah love it!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Lol at everyone

 

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