Post # 1
This is my first time posting and just wanted some advice 🙂
So my brother in law and my sister just got married and my sister is now preganant with her first child.
My brother in law was talking about moving overseas (with my sister) and then said (my sister was not in the room) that “if anything goes wrong between him and my sister that may not be such a good idea after all.”
I didn’t really know what to say, I think I was in shock. Now I am kicking my self for not saying anything at the time and am really angry with him. Do you guys think this was a harmless comment? I mean my sister is pregnant so maybe I’m just feeling extra protective, but I kinda want to kick him in the head for saying this lol!
Post # 3
I think it was just an ill thought out comment based on nerves about lots of upcoming HUGE changes.
Frankly, when we finally got pregnant, one of my thoughts was “now I’m REALLY stuck with him forever”… but I wouldn’t have said it out loud.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
Well, he’s right in that if anything goes wrong, they won’t have all of you around for support. I wouldn’t say anything, I don’t think he meant anything by it.
Post # 5
He’s right. If anything does goes wrong, it’s going to be bad news for everyone.
I think it’s naive to not have a backup plan and to not cover your “what ifs” when it comes to relationship. Lets face it. Divorce happens, and there’s a very real chance that love may not last forever. It would be incredibly naive on anyone’s part to just go, “We’re going to be happy and in love forever and we’ll never have to worry about a thing!”
So, while I probably wouldn’t have voiced the concern he has, I definitely would think it. Everyone needs a plan B. Everyone needs to figure out just what they’re going to do if it doesn’t work.
I wouldn’t say anything. I think he’s just thinking out loud.
Post # 7
Weird thing to say, but people always put their foot in their mouth. If he says something like that again, I might speak up. “You know, that’s an interesting thing to say and I’ve heard you mention it before. Anything you’d like to talk about?”
Post # 8
@sapphireSun: Thanks for the input, I never actually thought of it like that and it’s quite possible that he’s feeling the nerves over the pregnancy, but yeah definately did not expect him to say it out loud.
@Caroheart: Looking at it now I also don’t really think he meant anything by it, I guess I’m just over protective (even though she’s actually my big sis!).
Thanks for the advice bees! I was thinking that he was anticipating something going wrong in the marriage when they just got married and all. But I think it really was just a harmless commen and a result of nerves 🙂
Post # 9
@Hyperventilate: Yeah thinking that it may never go wrong is naive. I guess I was just upset that he said it out loud and so soon after getting married. But yeah I won’t say anything, the main thing is just being there when they need the support especially as they are expecting a baby.
Mars62312: I know right? I also though it was a weird thing to say, even though I do agree with the other bees that it may have been a case of him thinking out loud. But yeah definately if he says anything like that again I would probably say something.