(Closed) Brother is getting married in 26 days and its in a shambles!

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

woah!

Try not to get too emotionally involved, and don’t let them rope you into doing too much. And certainly don’t rely on them to help with anything crucial for your own wedding, when the time comes!

Hope they’re pretty laid back people, and that things come together despite the present appearances!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Wow.  Best of luck.  This might be a little cold but just be glad it’s not your wedding.  They did it to themselves.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m with MichelleMyBell – It’s not like you never offered to help. At this point, just sit back and enjoy the show.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yikes! Well, it may not turn out perfectly or super organized, so let’s just hope in the end nobody’s super high strung. They have nobody to blame but themselves! That’s definitely the kind of stuff you don’t leave til last minute! I agree with daydreamwanderer, don’t let them wrangle you into so many last minute things you end up overwhelmed, too!

But ya know, there are plenty of unorganized, non-type A people out there.

Post # 7
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Helper bee

Keep your phone turned off and start to concentrate on your own wedding! They got themselves into this mess and it is not your place to bail them out.  Its not healthy, however, to spend all of your waking hours worrying about them and the next time they’ll pop up for a “favor” so politely tell them that you are currently busy planning your own wedding (ahead of time, at that) and it will be a beautiful event no matter what happens.  Then, grab your FH and thank him for being so great!

Good luck ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Wow, at this point I would just sit back and enjoy the show.  Are they always like this?  Disorganized?

I say that because I volunteered to help my Future Sister-In-Law and I should have known better.  She’s always been a fly by the seat of her pants, but I MISSED her wedding ceremony because I was setting up her reception (I was the only one she asked so I had a LOT of work to do) and then because the ceremony was an hour late the reception timeline was off and so I had to become the DOC…telling them when to serve dinner, to hold off with the toast until the cake cutting, etc.

It’s so frustrating when people act like this because they are putting other organized people in a bad situation.  That being said, this might be a preview of your family life moving forward.

 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

… whoa. This makes me feel so much better about my own planning, no lie. It sounds like they wanted everyone to do everything for them and it didn’t quite work out that way. Do your parents want the arch white? That would tick me off, because it takes SO much time to strip paint if they decide they don’t like it. Make them buy another one and have them paint it themselves.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

as much as i understand your concern for your parents – none of his wedding is your issue to deal with and let your brother and his incompentant bride to be deal with the consequences.

hopefully worst case senario – i will be a big jumbled party with a wedding attached… thats if they book a minister that is (insert evil smilie)

 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

wow – your dad is the minister – thats cool!

well at least you know at the very least they will get married…. provided they apply for the license ๐Ÿ˜€

enjoy the crazyness of it and learn from it

 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I feel like if it was my younger brother, I would jump in and help out as much as I can, despite what his fiance says.  Family should always stick together no matter what. But if you have alot of planning to do on your own then its understandable, some people are just horrible with planning and others are good at it.  This is just what i’d do but everybody is different

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

no way!

I would stay hands off as much as possible from here on out.  The wedding will really reflect most on the bride and the couple if things don’t work out well and it sounds like you have been more than generous offering to help!

I hope things smooth out soon, and I’m sure you’re doing the right thing, watching from a distance!

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