- 11 years ago
- Wedding: August 2010
My brother lives 4hrs away with his partner and they have decided to have the wedding back here in our family city and have it in my parents backyard. Which is cool (my parents property is very pretty, country garden theme with archways and always looks pristine). He got engaged 3 weeks after my partner and I did and set the date before us to have it on Feb 6, which is fine by us, as we decided to have a long engagement to be able to save for the wedding and have the wedding we want.
There were big talks as according to them it was going to be a well organised wedding.
Well after this talk alot of things have gone wrong for them and annoyed the family quite considerably.
The week before FH & I’s engagement party. My brother called and asked if I would be able to do the invitations for them. I was really pleased that he asked as I have just started doing invitaitons for about 4 sets of friends and I felt honored to do theirs even tho it is time consuming. So I decided I would make mock ups to show them when they drove down for our engagment party.
Our engagement party was a success and I felt pretty proud of my mock ups and have even used one for our wedding. I presented it to them on the Sunday the day after and I was brutally rebuffed by his future wife when I went to show them and she said “oh i already asked my sister to do the invitations as she is a graphic designer” I was a bit like “oh no worries”. My FH could see i was a bit upset as I had spent many an hour doing them as well as coordinating our own engagement party. So I said to myself, I wont do anything for them unless they ask twice.
Anyway well since then, we have heard how their going to do this and to that and everything they have organised has fallen into a big heap.
The invitations they sent came with my name spelt wrong my grandparents didnt recieve an invitation also the RSVP date was wrong.
They asked if I could go around to the hotels and ask if they could hire glassware as they didnt like the ones the caterer was offering. I did the research and came back with it would be cheaper to buy rather than hire. They were fine with this and appreacitive that I had asked.
Ive heard nothing from them until last thursday in regards to wedding things, and I got a phonecall asking if they could stay at our place for the weekend. I was like no worries.
We cancelled our plans for the saturday so we could help them.
Since they came down on the weekend I have found out that with
26 days to go
They havent booked a photographer.
She hasnt booked a hairdresser for her and her bridal party.
They havent purchased shirts for the groomsmen.
They havent booked accomodation for people to stay.
Half the guests havent replied.
They havent confirmed the caterer with numbers and also havent paid a deposit
and they critisicised mum and dads garden arch way and told them it needed to be painted. (it is a natural wood and they have asked for it to be painted white) my dad is 63 so climbing up ladders really isnt his thing. so my FH has volunteered to do it.
They havent confirmed with the musicians that they booked (a jazz trio) or paid them any money.
The future sister in law also hasnt organised her flowers for her and her bridesmaids.
My mum is going a little crazy with the lack of organisation and my mum hasnt taken over or control as she is constantly rebuffed by my brother. Also Mum and Dad cannot cover much of the costs due their financial situation and my brother understands this. I just cant see how they are going to pull it all together on the day, without it being a shambles, or having disgruntled vendors or leaving mum and dad to pay for everything.
I hope they can get it sorted, but the chances of it running ok are slim.
Anyway *sigh* its going to be an interesting wedding!!!