Brother just picked date 2 months before mine…not happy

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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bobtref3 :  your Fiance is crazy. I would really think hard about marrying someone like that. Was she serious?

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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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bobtref3 :  I hope this is just a temporary overreaction on her part, becuse I wouldn’t be with someone who thought that was an appropriate way to behave.

Was it the best decision on their part? No, but not because of any effect on the two of you. The people most affected would be family who have to ravel to both weddings.

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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

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bobtref3 :  

are you marrying a toddler? Because she sounds like one.

I guess you could try to talk to her but you are right that this is a huge red flag. I wouldn’t want to marry into this absurd drama fest

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

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bobtref3 :  wedding planning is stressful and hopefully she will calm down after a week or so and realize how nuts she’s being. I understand the upset and that she feels like they’re doing this intentionally but they can get married when they want and it has nothing to do with her. If she doesn’t calm down, I would think long and hard about the future of your relationship

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

It also sounds like a test. I don’t think she would get rid of you, she thinks you are going to bow down to her and not go to your brothers wedding and not invite your family out of fear of losing her.

Keep the family, lose the toddler.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

Does she have a tendency to be temperamental and overreact and then calm down a minute later and move on? Cause this is way over the top. I can maybe get a slight annoyance but it’s 2 months. If she is totally serious then already calm and still thinks like that, run. It’s not my usual advice but this is not ok.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper

dafuq? I can see being privately salty about this – but threatening to call the whole thing off? I’d honestly call her bluff because this is insane. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

Um she’s being entitled and selfish. Does she act like this at other times? I would rethink marrying someone who would FORBID me from going to a family member’s wedding and forbid them from them coming to mine.

She gets ONE DAY, not all the time between now and then too. I don’t see why your brother getting married two MONTHS before you is an issue, it’s not like the week / day before.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

She gets a day. I mean, if he booked the same weekend I would be a little steamed…. but two months out is super reasonable. 

Dont bow in to this crazy demand, honestly I would be rethinking if I even wanted to marry her with how crazy and unreasonable she is acting!!

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

If she is serious, she needs to go. I would never commit my life to someone who required that I shun my family because a sibling dared to get married before me. She can grow up or leave. This will not be the only time she requires you to cut them off at her will and demand. If you’re prepared for a lifetime of abandoning your family at her whim, by all means, marry her. If you’re not, and she’s serious and not just throwing a tantrum (which is still completely unacceptable and immature) walk. She won’t ever be a reasonable person.

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: City hall & Home

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bobtref3 :  maybe she will calm down after some time…but if not then i agreed with the previous post,think again about her behavior!

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