Post # 136
Why the hell have you not dumped her crazy ass? Is this how you want your life to be? Because she is showing you her true character and it is not attractive at all.
By staying with her while she continues with this bullshit you are essentially telling her and your family that you support and condone her unreasonable behavior. Do you really want her to alienate you from your family?
Post # 137
what the F**k?!
have I read that right?!…she’s pissed and giving you ultimatums because their wedding is planned TWO MONTHS before yours?!
Two months?! Who does she think she is?!
My heart bleeds for you
Post # 138
sboom : Okay I think perhaps I’ve been a bit catty. OP does deserve to seek and get advice about things that bother him, from whatever source he chooses. Guys sometimes don’t have the support that women have so yeah, my bad.
OP from what you’ve said your fiancé sounds pretty unhinged. It sounds a bit manipulative. Good luck with figuring out what to do!
Post # 139
thanks, bee. I was just being called here to say men are just as entitled to post as women. Appreciate you correcting it before I had to!
Post # 140
I think it is concerning that this happened over a month ago. Your fiance didn’t just have a melt-down, come to her senses, and apologize to everyone. Instead, she has dug-in. While I don’t get the upset on having a wedding occur two months before yours, I think I could understand this, if she had realized she over-reacted and apologized to you- and everyone else, after.
But, she hasn’t. Instead, she is issuing ultimatums designed to hurt you and others. She seems to have no regard for you- or, anyone that you love. I think this tells you a great deal about who she is as a person. Your brother may have inadvertently done you a great favor here- it gives you an opportunity to see how your potential spouse would treat you and your family when things do not go exactly the way she would like them.
Are you sure you want to sign up for a lifetime of this? Canceling a wedding is much cheaper- financially and emotionally- than a divorce.
Post # 141
it’s always nice when a person acknowledges they were wrong or inappropriate, so I appreciate that. Good on ya.
Men do have it especially hard when it comes to dealing with their emotions and we all need to do better at supporting and listening to them when they speak.
Post # 142
Whoa….she’s nuts. And vindictive. And immature. And spiteful. And selfish. And NUTS. Who acts like this????!!
My 11 year old is more reasonable, and she’s going through puberty! All the moms out there with tween/teen daughters, can I get an amen! And a Valium.
But seriously, do you really REALLY want to live the rest of your life like this? Because lemme tell ya, after nearly 13 years of marriage I can attest to the fact that it’s only going downhill from here.
Don’t give into her ridiculous demands and for Pete’s sake, stop enabling her and put your foot down! It’s your BROTHER for crying out loud! If she doesn’t realize how this affects you, she doesn’t give a damn about you or your feelings.
You get ONE DAY. One. Period. If you do go through with the wedding, good luck!
Post # 143
I am pleased to inform you that this isn’t a women’s forum. Its a wedding forum and OP along with any member of any gender is welcome.
Post # 144
Thought everything cooled down but she still doesn’t want my brother to be in the wedding. Her mom and sisters say its ridiculous too. We’re all saying that it’s ridiculous to intentionally hurt people. I’m basically all for whatever she wants in the wedding (as long as we can afford it) but I’m not kicking my brother out.
Post # 145
You’re really going to regret marrying this jealous little prima donna. You’re walking into this wearing blinders and covering your ears.
I give your marriage 5 years. That’s a long time to live with a narcissist.
Post # 146
I know I know. This is not easy.
Post # 147
dude… Please tell me you’re not still considering marrying her…
Post # 148
Look I don’t give up on things and that’s how marriage wnd engagement should be. I was raised to not give up on people that you love, you work through things. Too many people give up today. But I’m close to my breaking point ill say that
Post # 149
I would at least postpone the wedding even if she says your brother can go now. I would really reevaluate if this is the person I would marry.
We all lose our minds sometimes, but this has gone on for a while.
Post # 150
it wouldn’t be giving up. It would be dodging a bullet. “Not giving up” doesn’t mean you’re forced to marry a horrible person.