Post # 1
My brother is MCing our wedding, and we went over to his house tonight to go over the details. I am not changing my name, but he kept pressuring me to be introducing as “Mr and Mrs. XXX”
He was trying to guilt trip me by saying it’s “traditional”. Umm, no, if I’m not changing my name it’s INACCURATE! Why would I be introduced as a name I never plan to use? It doesn’t make any sense.
Then he called me a hipster for not changing my name. Fun times.
Just a vent, ladies.
Post # 3
I don’t blame you for being mad. What part of “That’s not my name” does he not understand?
I do believe you’re allowed to go a TINY bit bridezilla and insist that he says your actual name, here. 🙂
Post # 4
Yep, I think if you’re changing your name and you announce it as mr and mrs hislastname at the wedding, it’s only going to make it harder to make it clear that you’re not taking his name in the future. I think you need to make a stand on this one.
His two seconds of “fun” announcing you will lead to months of headaches for you down the road.
Post # 5
I agree with the PPs. This will be one extra chance for you two to show that you’re keeping your own name, and I’d let him know (sternly, and rightly!) that you’re going to be announced as as Mr.XY and Mrs./Ms.XX. And that is that! Not bridezilla-y at all, it’s what you want.
Post # 6
Thanks bees. I had to send him a timeline of the wedding and what he needed to do when anyway, so I included a little note on the bottom somewhat to the tune of:
“I do not respond to Mrs. Smith/Mrs. Jillbean Smith/Mrs. Jillbean’s Fiance Smith or any variation thereof. This is the one thing I am a complete and unapolegetic Bridezilla monster about. If you/others call me that I am likely to ninja-kick you/them. Acceptable alternatives include: Jillbean and Jillbean’s Fiance, the newlyweds, Jill Bean and Bob Smith etc.”
He seems to have gotten the message 😉
Post # 7
I would be tempted to have him follow the announcements with the Ting Ting’s “That’s Not My Name.” 🙂
Glad he’s seen the light!