(Closed) Brother problems

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Look him dead in the eye and say “It doesn’t matter. Get over it, and live your own life. In the meantime, I will be happily living mine. You’re childish jealousy is seriously starting to annoy me.”

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Perhaps there’s something on his and his wifes end that’s upsetting him? Maybe her family wasn’t as generous with contributing to their wedding and they were left to pay and that’s causing the jealousy? He seems bitter and I wonder why, have you asked? 

I say that because my older sister got her college and wedding paid for by our father (who i dont have a great relationship with) while I’m drowning in student loans and probably going to have my reception (when the time come) at Burger King.. And it bothers me too sometimes. 

Post # 5
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333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

{#emotions_dlg.wink} Kidding about Burger King 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

@Asia:  “Look him dead in the eye and say “It doesn’t matter. Get over it, and live your own life. In the meantime, I will be happily living mine. You’re childish jealousy is seriously starting to annoy me.”

I think saying this, or something similar is a great solution. If he continues to ask, just keep repeating it. It may be boring/annoying, but hopefully it will stop him constantly prying into your wedding finances.

Post # 7
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413 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

i would buy him a pair of boxer shorts.

When he asks why you bought them, reply “I figured it was time for you to start wearing big boy underwear”.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MayaBean:  +1 hahaha!

Post # 11
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333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

@nixietink:  

you’re right, he shouldn’t. Buy the boxers!

Post # 12
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1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

He doesn’t really have a issue with you; he has an issue with your parents and what he perceives is preferential treatment.  I swear I think this happens in every family when there are siblings.  I’m sure you parents would tell him that it’s none of his business.  It’s their money that they’ve earned/saved to do with what they please.  Next time he asks how much they’ve given you tell him some ridiculous number like $1million.  LOL

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My experience with parents that make gender based decisions is that paying for weddings is not the only thing they differentiated with respect to.   Whether it was sports in high school, cars, college, my guess is OPs parents paid more  for brother.  I have a friend at work who was jealous that his parents paid more for his sisters wedding, then I reminded him that they paid for him to go to a four year college, but only paid for two years for his sister.  He tried to tell me he deserved 4 years of college and I gave him a BAER.

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