Post # 1
so, i havent always been the “dream of wedding since i was little” type….but i knew if i did eventually find the right guy and take the plunge, my bro was def walking me down the aisle… he is the person that raised me (with my mom of course,dad wasnt around) and he is the one who made me who i am, and the person who made me set my standards so high for my future, not just hubby,but my whole future. here is the prob: ole dad popped back into my life years ago trying to make up for his absence, which wont change who is walking me down the aisle, but do i have my dad meet us at the end?? who gives me away?? if i had it my way, i would have my brother walk me from start to finish and when the minister asks “who gives this woman” my bro would say our mother,father, and i…. is this ok?? how odd would this be?? and my dad just stand for a second during that with my mother… odd or ok??
Post # 3
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Not odd at all. Do what seems right to you!
Post # 4
I think its fine to have your brother escort you, just be prepared for some hurt feelings from your father. If I was in your situation when the minister asked who gives you away I’d ask the 3 of them to stand and together say “we do”
Post # 5
I agree. Let you father participate. This is not the time to make a statement.
Post # 6
ok,good suggestion, i didnt think about that…. yeah, writing that down now…thanks!!
Post # 7
and yes, im fine with hurt feelings….he has done some terrible things to me and my bro and at this point, is luck to be there…..im trying to be a good daughter
Post # 8
You said it yourself: “if i had it my way, i would have my brother walk me from start to finish and when the minister asks “who gives this woman” my bro would say our mother,father, and i…. is this ok?? how odd would this be?? and my dad just stand for a second during that with my mother… odd or ok??”
You do have it your way – it’s your wedding! Do what’s going to make you feel the most comfortable in the long run!
Post # 10
If you just want your brother to walk you down, then just have him. You can have your dad seated in the first or second row during the ceremony. When the pastor asks who gives this woman away your brother could just say her family and I do.
Post # 11
I’m having my brother walk me down the isle…. thanks for asking this question because it never crossed my mind – i think i like (& most likely will use) the line of “Her Mother, Father & I do”… that should work
My brother is actually younger than me, but he has also made me who I am. I’m letting my deadbeat father back into my life & he’s welcome at the wedding but I too am not comfortable with my father walking me down the isle. My father expected, and asked if he will be giving me away – and i stood my ground & said I’m not sure if i’m comfortable with that. I cant respect his “hurt feelings” when he hasn’t respected mine for all the years he was gone. its not an act of revenge or making a statement – its just how it is. we can move forward & work toward a healthy loving relationship, but on a day that i’m entering into my new life, I want the person holding my hand & escorting me to that new life to have held my hand & been a support for me in my “old” life….
its your day – have it your way!!! & know that you’re not alone in your situation 🙂
Post # 12
I’m with LpCutiPie – have your brother walk you down the aisle but in response to the question, let all three of them stand and say “we do” in unison.
Post # 13
If you decide to have your brother give you away, when the minister asks who give you away, he can respond “her family does”. I’ve seen this before and its sweet.
Post # 14
A friend of mine will have her brother walk her when she gets married, no mention of her father even though, like yours, he’ll be there. To me, this means so much to her and I think it’s beautiful. Do what you want.