Post # 1
I need some advice from you bee’s. 🙂
My wedding is in less than 30 days and my brother text me today and said that he needed advice on something. He texts me that he’s thinking about asking his girlfriend of four years to marry him at our wedding. I’m not opposed to him proposing to her at our reception but as a girl I kinda feel for her and would not be the place I would like to be proposed at, in front of all 350 guests! So I told my brother that I think it would be better for him to do it in private either the day before the wedding or the day of so they got to soak in that moment in private. I even offered my brother to have our photographer follow them to take a few pictures of them as a couple, and he could propose then so our photographer can capture that moment for them. I don’t want to crush my brothers plans because I know he really loves her and I think she deserves a memorable proposal. I need ideas on how to incorporate his proposal without putting her on the spot like that in front of all our guests.
Post # 3
I think you’re being really great about this, but my opinion is that someone else’s wedding isn’t the place to propose…don’t steal someone’s thunder…let them have it just for a day!
Post # 4
I agree that it’s better for him to propose in private – and offer to announce it at your reception, maybe during the toasts. That way, it’s the celebration he’s looking for, without putting the poor girl on the spot like that.
Post # 5
You’re a better person than me, as I would’ve told a sibling of mine straight off that this was completely inappropriate in time and place. I think you should just help your brother plan somthing memorable separate from your wedding or any pre or post wedding events. This is your time to shine now and if he is proposing to her then soon they will have their time.
Post # 6
I don’t really think it’s appropriate for him to propose at someone elses wedding, regardless of the fact that he is your brother. Not only might she feel weird, I’m pretty sure most of your 350 guests would too.
Let them have their time and moment, and you and your Fiance should have yours. The 2 should not be blended in any way.
Post # 7
I agree with PP. I don’t think it’s appropriate at all, and I wouldn’t be ok with it if I were you or his Fiance. Your wedding and her proposal deserve their own special, separate moments.
Post # 8
It would be cute if he put it in a favour box and gave it to her at the end of the night.
Post # 9
Too answer your question about how to talk to him about it…just be honest and let him know he should plan something seperate. It’s your and your FI’s day, and his soon to be should have her own day as well. (my opinion of course, but it seems like a bad idea for him to do it at your wedding o anything related to it).
Post # 10
You’re being wayyy more chill about this than most brides would be. I would have NEVER been okay with someone proposing at my wedding. It’s not the time or place. Buuuut, since you seem to be okay with it, I think your idea of having them go off privately to take some pictures is a good idea. He’ll be able to pop the question in private and your photographer will get to capture it on film which is something that a lot of people don’t have the luxury of having.
Post # 11
I would be mortified if my SO proposed at his sister’s wedding!
Post # 12
I know a woman who’s Darling Husband proposed to her at someones wedding. She would never admit it but you can tell that she kind of wishes that he hadn’t. I think you’re right in telling him that a private moment is better, hopefully not during the wedding. I know if my SO proposed to me at a wedding it would feel like he was thinking “oh while we’re here and all dressed up I might as well do it”. It just feels like piggybacking on someone else’s special moment.
Post # 13
well op, i am going against all other pp and say it would be amazing!
Have your brother catch the garter and his soon to be fi catch the bouquet! While he is down putting the garter on her have him pull out the ring! This is how my sister was proposed to and it was an unforgettable moment!
Post # 14
You are a very sweet sister! I love the idea of offering your photographer to take some pictures of the proposal too.
Oh, and congrats on your big day being so close!
Post # 15
You are a really great sister!
I’m not sure if I would like the idea of someone being proposed to at my wedding or me being proposed to at someone elses wedding.
I feel its somewhat ackward and slightly innapropriate, but if you as the bride have no problems with it, then by all means go for it.
I hope it all works out, and everyone is happy!
Congrats on your big day, do enjoy it!
Post # 16
- Wedding: June 2015 - Backyard
Personally I would be mortified if my SO proposed at someone’s wedding. Super tacky, inappropriate and disrespectful to the bride and groom, at least from an etiquette standpoint. I’d be wondering if he simply couldn’t think up a better way to propose. The whole idea of people proposing at other people’s weddings just makes me cringe. I do understand though, if it were my wedding I wouldn’t have much of a problem with it, I’d just feel sorry for the girl because it would be so embarrassing for her and she’d likely spend more of her time worrying about offending you than being excited! It’s just too awkward. I mean I can understand your stance of not letting that bother you but I just feel for the gf’s sake it would be a bad idea. He could always propose before the wedding and if you like you could offer the photog to take a couple of couples shots for them. Just my two cents 🙂