(Closed) Brother's GF annoyed at ME??

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 32
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Busy bee

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@PinkGirl86:  I’m sorry but no. The girl was upset about being alone for the ceremony, has been trashing her to people now, after the fact and you want her to see it from her perspective and be sympathetic towards her?? No. Just. NO. 

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@heathuhhhhwebbbb:  your  brother’s gf sounds like a f*cking moron. And if the people she has been bitching to have any sense as soon as she explains why she thinks you’re a bitch for not allowing her to have a plus one when she was someone else’s plus one, they’ll completely agree that she’s a moron and just smile and nod. If you feel up to it, tell her you’ve heard from mutual friends she’s upset and talk talk to her about it. But in all honesty, sounds like it’d be a waste of breath because she’s a twit. 

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Newbee

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@krayzay87:  I’m not saying it is easy to see things through another person’s eyes. I can admit that sometimes it is very difficult, as you have just shown, to be open to another point of view. I agree that she wasn’t perfect in this situation either. Unfortunately, however, the bride was in the wrong as well. It’s very obvious from  her original post that she doesn’t like this brother’s girlfriend, and she was trying to make the girl feel unwanted and unwelcome at her wedding by making her sit by herself. Just because it’s your wedding doesn’t make it ok to try to hurt someone!!  Although your wedding is your day, that doesn’t mean you can be bridezilla without any consequences. BOTH parties were WRONG in this. And for all of you bashing future SIL’s on here, STOP! It’s childish.

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

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@PinkGirl86:  I don’t normally get involved with posts like this but as far as I can tell this girlfriend was sat with family for the ceremony part (so not exactly alone or excluded from the group) which only lasted about 10 minutes anyway, and then was sat with her boyfriend during the reception (and presumerably other family members as well). I’m just failing to see how she was made to feel unwelcome/excluded at all, in fact allowing her friend to be there would have been more excluding as they’d have been a twosome and likely shut off from socialising with anyone else.

 

Regardless, this girl has been whining about it for a whole year, she’s not exactly helping her case :3

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Newbee

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@MaidMarian:  The way I read the post, it sounded to me like the bride made the poor girl sit by herself during the wedding while her brother sat with family. If that’s not the case, then I agree with you 100% 

I also agree with you that all of this drama a year after the wedding is silly! Sometimes when people get hurt, they hold onto it and begin to resent the people who hurt them. Perhaps it’s time for these ladies to forgive and move on, maybe meet up for a cup of coffee and extend the olive branch. Thank you, MaidMarian for your insight ๐Ÿ™‚

 

 

Post # 36
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

How old is this girl??

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

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@PinkGirl86:  And thank you for yours ^^ It definately wouldn’t take much to make either party the “bad guy”, if such a thing exists. But I do feel that in these particular circumstances the Girlfriend is being more unfair than our OP.

Hopefully some kind of resolve is found ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 38
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@heathuhhhhwebbbb:  i just told my mom about this and she laughed… she said “so the plus one wanted a plus one? why?”

i already commented on this a day ago but it’s still so unbelievable. absurd.

Post # 39
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Busy bee

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@MaidMarian:  I think you read the original post wrong. She wasn’t trying to make the bros gf feel unwanted or unwelcome. She wasn’t sat in the corner facing the wall. She also got to sit with her bf during the reception, so I think the gf is out of line, and the bride did nothing wrong. You don’t ask to invite someone to the wedding the DAY of the wedding and through someone else. 

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

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@krayzay87:  i think you replied to the wrong person ๐Ÿ™‚ that’s what I said as well ^^

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Newbee

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@krayzay87:  Since you helped this girl with her question, krayzay87, please now help me with mine. I have been with my fiance for 3 years. His family thought I wasn’t good enough for him because I didn’t come from the “right” family, so it’s been rocky at times.

He asked his mom for the ring he was told belonged to him for when he got married, and she refused. A few months later, his 19-year-old sister had the ring and was engaged. Then, she invited his ex-girlfriend’s entire family to the wedding, and made the ex’s sister her maid of honor..

Fast forward to two weeks before her wedding, which is set for tomorrow btw: Fiance of one year/partner of three years had an argument with me, I was already on edge over his sister getting married before us and over the way things went (We’re 26 and 27 and still not married), and my air conditioner went out so I went to my family – three states away. I told fiance he needed to work things out with me, come and get me for the wedding, or buy me a plane ticket to get there. 

 

I said multiple times “Do not go to the wedding without me, please”.. His family has been difficult enough as it is, I just don’t need the added issue of not attending his sister’s wedding. 

 

He finally contacted me last night.. driving to the wedding without me!!! Didn’t even try. My car won’t make the drive, I had to replace the tires when I got to my family’s house, and my dad told me it wasn’t safe to drive.. I called again this morning, begging (sorry to say) for him to find a way to get me there to the wedding. He screamed at me that he’ll come and get me AFTER the wedding and not to call again… then hung up on me.

I am so upset, I haven’t slept all night. I know this board is about how terrible brother’s gf’s are, but I’m really hurting – I feel like he’s not doing right by me at all! Please Help Me, krayzay87 and MaidMarian.. I’m still crying ๐Ÿ™

How to get through tomorrow (the wedding day)..

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Busy bee

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@PinkGirl86:  What on earth was the argument about? You’re right, he’s not doing right by you at all, but I don’t think you did right by him either.  I’m guessing you didn’t just go to your family’s place, THREE states away purely because your air con wasn’t working. (I’m assuming this wasn’t a pre-planned trip?)

By doing this you added to the drama of an already tense situation. I suspect that he is seeing it as you trying to prevent him from partaking in his sister’s wedding celebration by (I’m sorry but) dramatically leaving the state after this argument. I think he’s frustrated with your actions and is making you deal with the consequences of them, that being missing the wedding. 

If you honestly have no way to the wedding, which (I’m sorry again) doesn’t sound like you’d be welcome at right now then take the day at home to catch up with family, old friends, pamper yourself; spa, nails, massage etc, just to get your mind off it. There’s nothing you can do from three states away. 

If I were you I’d prepare yourself for some serious backlash about this argument and your further actions, not just from your Fiance but his family too. Like you said missing her wedding would add to pre existsing issues. I’m sorry PinkGirl86.

Post # 44
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Bumble bee

Just read the OP-what a nut. Dead @ “plus ones can’t have plus ones” lolol sounds like a Seinfeld episode! But honestly, I would probably give my mom the side eye that she would even ask me that unless she was making a joke of it. Moms, MOHs, and BMs are supposed to block the bullshit day-of lol.

 

Post # 45
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@PinkGirl86:  I have a few questions. Did you have to go 3 states away? COuld younot have stayed at a cheap hotel or motel for a few days until the AC was fixed? Do you own your home? I now that when they break its at least $3K to fix. Your job is letting you be that far away?

As far asyour Fiance yelling at you, I think before you two make any further committmenets you need pre-marital couseling. Because if you marry him, you will be dealing with his family all your life. Your potential SIL, is she frriend’s with his EX or did she make her Maid/Matron of Honor just to spite you?

DO you love him enough to want to put up with his asshole family forever and bring children into the mix?

Post # 46
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

What did she think her friend was going to eat?  You need a little more notice than an hour.  She’s an idiot.

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