(Closed) Brother’s GF is pregnant and due very close to wedding….how do I handle?

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think if you really want your brother IN the wedding just go ahead as planned and hope for the best.  We had uneven wedding party from the get go and it worked out just fine. 

We had a girl at our wedding that was due two days after, and she was a trooper, but an 8 hour drive might be a bit much. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I’d say wait and see how pregnant she is and when her due date is before you get too worried.  Also, if you really want your brother in the wedding, put him in the wedding, and if something happens then he just cannot attend.  I also would never ask him to leave his almost nine month pregnant (36 weeks, I’ve been told 40 weeks is usually how long pregnancy is though from conception to due date but someone correct me if I’m wrong) girlfriend.  Also, when they find out the due date, just talk to them both about what they think about the whole thing.  And still congratulate them even if they aren’t in the best financial situation.  My Future Brother-In-Law and his wife just had a baby and were three months behind on bills but it was still a celebration when he was born.  

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you haven’t yet asked the rest of your bridal party, maybe wait a month or two until a due date is ‘official.’ Then, if it does seem that it will line up with your wedding day, perhaps ask your brother to be an honorary groomsman. I really think that talking with them about what they’d want to do about travel is a good idea, and about how important being present at your wedding is for your brother. With being close to the due date and having such a long travel time, I’d guess that they’d prefer to be close to home/their doctor, but it would still be polite to discuss it with them. He could still be in your programs, you could have a skype feed for them to watch at home, and he could even skype in a speech if they baby isn’t making its debut at the same time. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’m not sure there’s a perfect answer here. Maybe you should start by asking him what HE would like to do?

 

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