Post # 1
We are having a brunch reception, following our morning ceremony. FI thinks we shouldn’t have an open bar, but rather offer samosa’s or another signature drink, and then have a cash bar.
I know that a lot of people think having a cash bar is rude and cheap, but we’re paying for our wedding ourselves with absolutely no help from our moms (they’ve offered, but they’re both single moms and we don’t want to take money from them.)
I also think that not a lot of people will want to drink much between the hours of 11:30am and 4pm. We won’t be having a dance either.
What to you girls think about this? Neither of us are drinkers, so we’re not sure what people who do drink would think.
Post # 3
I don’t think having free signature drinks and then cash bar for all else is rude. I think that’s quite thoughtful in the time frame you have, since MOST people would prefer mimosa’s, coffee that’s spiked, bloody mary’s, etc. Then if they don’t feel so inclined, they can order what they REALLY want at the bar for a fee.
Post # 4
Actually on Friday’s epsiode of Four Weddings they had someone who had a earlier wedding like yours and they were all confused why there weren’t more morning-style drinks served. See if it’ll be on soon or if you can find the episode online! usually they bother me with their critical attitudes but they had a point at that wedding!
Post # 5
I’ve been to a wedding that was a brunch reception and they served mimosa, bellinis, and bloody mary’s. It was a good selection and really at that time of day- I think people won’t expect a full open bar.
Because we aren’t big drinkers as well as our families not being as well- we’re only having sangria at our dinner reception.
Post # 6
wow I just realized I wrote samosas instead of mimosas!!
thanks for the input ladies!
Post # 7
yep–i am hosting a graduation party in two weeks, and we are having brunch, and all we are offering is mimosas and bloody mary’s-if people want something else, they can bring it!
Post # 8
Yeah, I think what you are offering is fine, even without the cash bar. Don’t worry about it, your wedding sounds lovely!
Post # 9
I think mimosas and bloody mary’s would be perfect. We are having a brunch reception and we aren’t serving any alcohol out of respect for my very religious family members, but even if your guests are drinkers, they won’t expect a full bar at that time in the morning.
Post # 10
I’ve been to, and had, a brunch wedding reception, and at every one but mine there was an open bar. Mine was just champagne and then there was a cash bar elsewhere in the restaurant. That said, I think that having just a few drinks is cost effective and a good way around the full bar option.
Post # 11
I think your approach is great. I’m also having a brunch reception and we’re doing mimosas, champagne, wine and beer. I think most people will drink the mimosas and the champagne so we’ll only bring a small amount of wine/beer. But we could easily just provide mimosas (or maybe add bellinis in there, too?) and I think people would be very happy 🙂
Post # 12
Thanks for all your ideas ladies. This makes me feel better that the majority of you don’t think it’s cheap to go with a select few drinks, especially at a brunch reception. I wouldn’t want people going home hammed mid-day.
Post # 13
It really irks me when brides seem to be hesitant about doing a cash bar, because really it is AWESOME that you are paying for the wedding yourself and as a wedding guest I would never be upset about having to pay for my own drinks. Weddings are expensive and while it is nice to be fed and given a free open bar all evening, it’s not a requirement and really, it’s about your vows not the booze.
I think it’s a bonus that you are considering serving a complimentary signature drink and if I were you I would definitely go for the cash bar in addition to the drink. As a wedding guest I would prefer to have the option to buy my own dirty martini instead of drink free champagne all day.
Post # 14
I would actually be confused to find an open bar at a brunch event. It’s like you said – who wants to get hammered at 11 in the morning? Honestly, if it were my wedding I probably wouldn’t even offer the cash bar option, just endless champagne and juices to mix with it, bloody mary’s and maybe irish coffee. For a brunch, I can’t imagine anyone needing or even wanting any more than that.
Post # 15
Yeah I definitely don’t think you need a full open bar, just one or to brunch type drinks.
Post # 16
I think your idea of mimosas and sig drink (or even just one of them) plus a cash bar is fine and totally appropriate. I typically think having an open bar goes hand in hand with a wedding BUT in your situation I think an traditional open bar would be a huge waste of money.