Post # 1
Hi guys! So I’m planning a wedding for March 2016. We’re trying to do it in about 5 months to plan it all. I have a few advice questions that I hope you all can help with. We’re doing a courthouse wedding (it’s not a typical courthouse; it’s BEAUTIFUL) but it’s a little more formal looking. Our reception will be at a historic house that is well, a house. I really love watercolor floral invitations, but should I make them more formal looking to match the ceremony?
#2. Because of the informality of our day (brunch, no “traditional” dances except First, no garter toss…), should I go with short bridesmaid dresses? I’m doing mismatched, but I love the longer look more, and I think it’s more practical for mid-March. Is it too weird, though
#3. I don’t want our reception to be lame. We’re doing mimosas, a nice brunch spread, cake, etc. but I’m worried no one will dance. Because it’s a house, there are separate rooms, one of which will be dancing. We’re looking into a DJ, but do you have tips for ways to occupy guests? Our reception will be short – start time around 11:30, end by 3:30, so am I overthinking it? I just don’t want people to be bored, especially the lack of “strong” drinks and short time frame without dinner.
Thank you for bearing with me!
Post # 2
P.S We’re considering a sketch artist for reception – lame ?
Post # 3
Watercolor floral invitations are lovely! I think that people will be able to figure out that it’s not a super formal affair from the fact that it’s a brunch wedding.
I do think people tend to dance less during daytime weddings, but it also depends on how big your wedding is, and what kind of crowd you have. If you want dancing, I say go for it, and maybe just ask the bridal party and/or other guests in advance to help kickstart the dancing on your wedding day. You can also have lawn games, interactive guest book options (like taking photos), etc. I think a sketch artist is a fun idea.
People will also just have fun catching up with old friends and family. I’ve been to several weddings where there was technically dancing, but it wasn’t until the last half hour or so of the evening. No one missed it in the 3-4 hours before that. I don’t think guests at a brunch wedding in particular will expect a rager.
I don’t think long dresses are weird at all, though I might pick a lighter fabric like jersey or chiffon. (I also think that informal vs. formal bridesmaid dresses is one of those things that only people who are planning a wedding, or recently did so, would notice 🙂 ).
Post # 4
I like live musicians (like a fun jazz band, but don’t expect people to dance completely sober in the afternoon!) and photo booths. By nature brunch is a shorter event. All people need to have a good time are good food and good company, so don’t worry too much about boredom.
Long bridesmaid dresses are fine but I would pick light, airy colours so it doesn’t look like they’re in glittering formal wear at 11am.
Post # 5
We had a brunch reception, with background music (no dancing at all) and a photobooth. Our guests really appreciated the time to visit, they moved around from one table to another to chat, and everyone loved the photobooth. And everyone loves brunch!! 🙂
Post # 6
I understand exactly what you mean Bee! I’m also planning a brunch wedding in May 2016 🙂
Regarding timing: I think games, activities, etc. are good because guests won’t want a wild party in the morning. How big is your wedding and how big is the house? I love the idea of a historical house. Also, a reception sketch artist sounds fun!
About the girl’s dresses I think you should think of climate before anything. You’ll want them to be comfortable depending on the weather in March where you are. I think watercolor is perfect for a brunch wedding’s paper.
Just in case comparing timelines helps you, here’s what I’m planning on doing for my timelines: Ceremony and reception at the same location on a roofdeck/top floor of a cool city restaraunt. We are having mimosas and snacks being served first(10:30) during our ceremony, then our reception and best friend speeches, etc. Then around 11:30- 1 fancy brunch, signature cocktails, waffle flights, housemade donuts, then 1-2:45 games like guessing who is who of our family with baby photos, doing a photo booth, putting brunch at stations so people can go and talk about food, etc. while enjoying the space. And 3-3:30 cake, and coffee, then breakdown & out by 4. We may stay at the venue and enjoy the bar with our close friends for a little afterparty.
Congratulations on your upcomming wedding and happy planning Bee 🙂
Post # 7
I live in a city where day-drinking is the norm… We are doing 12-4 with dueling pianos to get everyone In the mood. I went to a morning-afternoon wedding oncd and it was the best one I have ever been to.
Post # 8
I think watercolor invites would be lovely for your daytime affair, and they can totally be elegant with the right fonts!! I don’t know if you are going the DIY route, but in Word watercolor is totally do-able with WordArt (2013ish and beyond though).
We are also have a brunch wedding in January 2016!! Here’s what we ultimately decided to go with:
1. We are only having a First Dance & a Daddy/Daughter Dance. Then we have a spread of board games (chess, mahjong, farkle, cards) and lawn games (bocce ball, croquet, giant jenga, and life-size angry birds) in lieu of dancing. In terms of occuping and entertaining guests…I really think that your guests with a predisposition to celebrate will have a great time, and the people that don’t will be bored, but that’s not in your control you know? Our reception will be 11am-3:30pm. But I really think that your 4 hours is just fine.
2. My Maid/Matron of Honor (the only bridesmaid) does have a knee-length dress, but that was her preference. I think since your reception will be inside that short dresses would be fine. I personally LOVE the mismatched trend, perhaps you can have your maids just pick whatever length they want?
3. I also wouldn’t worry about the lack of strong alcohol and the short time frame. I actually think that your short time frame works well with your lack of strong alcohol, because there’s less time for people to consume prior to the event ending. Does that make any sense? Plus, more budget friendly!
Note: We are also have an After Party at like 8 pm at a local watering hole (we are not hosting, it’s more like a meet up for anyone who wants to go). You could do that to have a more evening-dance party vibe too!
Post # 9
O! And in case you needed inspiration for a menu (it was REALLY tough for us to narrow this down since we love breakfast food so much), our final menu looks like:
Alcohol – Mimosa Bar (bartender pours champagne, then guest self serves choice of juice and fruit garnish), red wine, white wine, domestic beer
Drinks – hot choco, coffee, sodas, juice
Hot items – chicken apple sausage, eggs benedict, potatoes o’brien, mini cinnamon rolls
Cold sides – self serve yogurt bar, mini pasteries
Crepe Station – made to order, chef attended (sweet and savory options)
Post # 10
First of all welcome to the brunch wedding club! And the 5 month engagement. I did both of those things and it was slight chaos but I’d have it no other way. 🙂
I think you’d be fine with the watercolor invitations. It doesn’t scream informal to me.
If you like long go long, as long as your girls are on board. I did a brunch wedding with long dresses, partly because I wanted our wedding to feel more formal.
People probably won’t dance. Since it’s not a typical wedding format, it doesn’t follow that same pattern and I think the house will exaggerate that. We had music for dancing and a lot of space for mingling. We didn’t do any other activites. The people who didn’t know others at the wedding left early, but our friends who came in longer groups stayed until our venue kicked them out (4 hours in total). I wouldn’t worry a lot about entertaining people. Adults are pretty good at handling it themselves. A sketch artist or photo booth could be fun though.