(Closed) BTDT moms, tell me about the minutes and hours after your baby was born

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

What’s BTDT? I don’t have any personal experience but, in general it does seem you are overthinking this… It’s hard not to but it may do some good to resist the urge to control every aspect.

Have you ever visited a newborn baby in the hospital? What was that experience like?

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I will say that it will all probably be sort of a blur. I really can’t remember exactly in what order everything happens. I know when she was delivered they took her but it seemed like they didn’t have her very long. I might have to ask my DH since he might remember things clearer. I think they probably weighed her, measured, and gave eye drops.  That might have been all that they did before giving her to me.  They gave her to me naked before a bath/diaper and before the vitamin k and that is when you do skin to skin. My OB was giving me stitches during part of the skin to skin so it couldn’t have been too long before I had her! So I probably breastfed her within 10 min of birth for sure, maybe more like 5 min? The baby team is pretty efficient and your OB focuses on you. We did the skin to skin/breastfeeding probably 30 min. After that I think is when my DH finally held her.  After that they did the kind of bath and the vitamin k but I remember my parents were in the room for that.  Lots of the other tests and routine exams are done later on when you’re out of the labor/delivery unit.

No one is allowed in the delivery room (well that wasn’t there before) until after the first hour. My parents and my Mother-In-Law were in the waiting room so they came in and were there probably about an hour (my dad went and got me food since the hospital cafeteria was closed). Yes they held the baby. You have 2 hours after birth in the delivery room before they move you. It was midnight so they all left after that (which I would have wanted them to leave anyway). They came back for a little bit the next day. I think they all asked to hold her. My brothers stopped by the next day and a friend of mine. All pretty briefly.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Right after birth they cleaned dd off with towels while she was on my chest. I had a retained placenta unfortunately (which was really awful btw) so after a few minutes I gave dd to the baby nurse and she got her measured/weighed/diapered etc while they were working on me. DH took pictures of her in the little bassinet thingy and cut her cord. They didn’t do her shots and eye drops until later.

Once I was stable they gave her back to me, and I asked for help with breastfeeding. I did research beforehand so I had an idea of what a good latch looked like and such, but some of the nurses were helpful (others not so much). I think we spent probably an hour just doing that, but  I wasn’t paying attention to the time. Honestly I don’t remember when DH first held her, he was super nervous though lol.

We told everyone no waiting room warriors, and didn’t call until we were actually ready for visitors. I didn’t want to feel pressured into rushing. As far as visitors I just assumed everyone wanted to hold the baby for a bit and I was okay with that. No one stayed more than an hour but I would have kicked them out otherwise lol. The nurses said they would do it to if I needed.

I was super happy with my birth experience, aside from the retained placenta which obviously could not be planned for.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

My sister asked me to be in the delivery room with her and her husband during labor. Once the baby was out, I left the room so they could bond. I think my brother in law stepped out quickly to let his family in the waiting room know the baby was here and gender. I remember the nurse telling my sister that they will keep people out as long as possible. I want to say it was a good 45 minutes before the baby left the room to go get weighed, etc. I am guessing my brother in law held the baby during that time, before the staff wheeled my sis and nephew to the baby measuring area, whatever that is called. 

It appeared to me that the hospital staff will keep out whoever you want to be kept out.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

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onceuponadream:  I’m pretty sure it’s “Been There Done That”

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Cloud 9!  I had an unplanned c section and a bad reaction to the pain meds, but all I remember was being insanely happy ๐Ÿ™‚  We have small families but I was happy to have them there that day fawning over my new son.  

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

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lalanono:  that makes a lot of sense. I’d be having a million questions too! good luck and remember if you end up with a healthy baby, it’s allllllll good ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m so glad you asked this question! We have a very large family (15 in our immediate families), and we are all very close. I know they’re all going to want to visit, but the hospital we’re at limits to 2 people, plus your support person. I had visions of people being around all night!

I think we are going to try and save the first 2 hours after birth (which our hospital promotes as skin-to-skin) as our personal family time, and then see where we go from there.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

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lalanono:  hi! I’m 3 months pp so I still kind of remember the day my was born. I had started pushing at 12AM and my LO came out at 1:51 am (btw I have Kaisers as medical) anyway as soon as she came out they put her on my chest, also trying to wipe her clean from all the blood… Where I am at Kaisers hospital does this skin to skin for a whole hour, so baby was on me for an hour and she immediately latched on perfectly & breastfed. As Soon as the hour was up I let my husband hold her before they got to measure her length, head & weight. As soon as that was done they rolled me in to the mother baby area room for us to recovery.

My first visitor was my mother in law which she came at about 8:45AM. Honestly I really didn’t want visitors as I felt soooo weak & drained.. But she really wanted to meet baby so I just said OK, she got to hold baby the whole time she was there & stayed only for 25 mins and left. She came back with the rest of the family later in the evening. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

My son was born at 5 pm after a pretty quick and easy delivery. They put him on my chest, told me he was a boy, and my husband cut the cord. Then baby and husband went over to the warmer for his measurements and clean-up while the Dr delivered my placenta and stitched me up (i had 2 2nd degree tears).

Then they brought my son back to me all bundled up and I got to hold him, make phone calls, and be euphoric.

About 1 hour later, they wheeled me up to the recovery floor where I stayed for 2 nights with my son. We called our immediately family and they came to visit around 8 pm. I ate some dinner and just sat there amazed as my parents, siblings and inlaws all gushed over the baby.

Most people have their husbands stay overnight at the hospital but mine snores and isn’t helpful when he has no sleep, so I sent him home each night so everyone could get some rest.

Worst part was going to the bathroom after. Swollen, stitched up lady parts are no fun. Sitting on ice packs and using witch hazel oil down there helped a bit. You also have to wear gauze underwear and HUGE pads. Lots of yucky.

Best part was showering for the first time. It felt amazing.

It was a blur, but it was all pretty great.

Post # 13
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Busy bee

It really depends on your labor and birth and how your baby is. 2 of mine were premature, so they were immediately taken to the NICU team for a very thorough exam. One of them took a little longer to adjust so I didn’t see her for hours.

For my healthy full term ones, they basically come out, they clamp the cord and lay the baby on your stomach and rub the baby vigorously all over with towels. This is to get the circulation going and make the baby give out a good hard cry. This is important to clear out the lungs, and to close a flap in the heart that the baby doesn’t need anymore (it shunted blood away from the lungs because the cord oxygenated the baby before birth. Now oxygen needs to go to the lungs). They see if your husband wants to cut the cord. Mine didn’t because professinally he’s cut thousands (he’s a physician), so I cut the cords. They’re tough! Then they basically hand the baby right to you.

None of my babies breastfed after birth for a few hours. They were just not interested at all. Skin to skin is up to you. Then after everyone meets the little person, they weigh, diaper, put in the eye antibiotics and give the Hep B shot. Then hand the baby to dad or to you. During this time you will deliver the placenta, they will do a fundal massage and do any stitching if you need it. They will also remove the IV if you aren’t bleeding too heavy and clean you up. Chances are, you won’t notice any of these things becsuse you’ll be busy with your baby.

After this they move you to the post partum room if your hospital does that.

Congrats! Being a mother is wonderful. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Have no idea what it would be like in a hospital (had my 5 at home) … baby comes out, hubby catches, makes sure airways are open w/ me hovering, then I hold the baby directly on me and encourage nursing. (Baby usually isn’t very interested so fast, but even just a little sucking helps 1- to make the placenta detach normally so it delivers in about 15-20 min. and 2- encourages the baby’s sucking reflex so they’ll nurse good later.)

Usually we cut the cord before the placenta comes, but my sister had a placenta come fast and so we didn’t cut the cord till afterwards. No blanket for baby till after cord is cut. No washing the baby cause it’s not needed (baby’s not bloody or dirty, and the lanolin dries to a natural baby powder).

After all that it’s off to the shower for me, then to bed where we all 3 sleep for a few hours. My sister’s different in that way – she doesn’t like to sleep after – she’s wired. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
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Busy bee

It’s not lanolin, it’s vernix. Lanolin is made by sheep.

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