(Closed) Bubbles for fun details in wedding keep getting burst..:(

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Isn't it okay to want more fun details and not just the traditional? or am I nuts?
    yes, it's okay. You're not nuts. : (17 votes)
    63 %
    no, it's not okay. Traditional is the only way to go! : (0 votes)
    A bit of compromise is okay too. : (9 votes)
    33 %
    Advice given below on how to feel okay about creativity being stiffled.... : (1 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    170 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Do your Fiance and family give you reasons why they disapprove of your ideas or do they just shoot them down without saying anything?

    Post # 4
    Member
    858 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’m sorry that you’re not having as much fun as you’d like. However, I think this is a good time to practice compromise. For example, if he wants a traditional cake, then you can have your beaded tulips. I don’t know if he really gets a say on the bridesmaid (as long as you respect his authority on the groomsmen). And maybe you get your invites, but keep the wedding really small so it can still be simple (I may have missed if you are already doing that). I think you should both have a say. πŸ™‚ Good luck! Oh, and read the thread about the girl whose florist called her venue tacky… Same idea with one room for everything.

    Post # 6
    Member
    269 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I don’t think what you’re asking for is too much.  A pop of color with bridal shoes is very normal these days.  Having Bridesmaid or Best Man in different colored dresses is also standard – as is serving cupcakes.  You do what you want to make your wedding reflective of you (and your fiancee). πŸ™‚ 

    Post # 8
    Member
    1161 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    None of your ideas are very “out there”.  If the issue is that your parents are paying, then you’ll have to find a way to do some serious compromise with them.

    As for your Fiance…wedding planning is is good practice for how you are going to deal with differences of opinion for the rest of your life.  It sound like you and he really need to sit down and develp a plan of attack on how to do this..compromise is now, and will always be, key.

    And I’m not sure why anyone even has to know what shoes you are planning on wearing.  Just show up with your shoes on that can be the end of that πŸ™‚

    Post # 10
    Member
    858 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    @smiles1979: I’m glad to hear it. I guess ultimately, unless they are paying for it all, it doesn’t really matter that his family doesn’t like it, as long as you two are happy. So, as it sounds like you’re doing, just make sure you’re fiance will be ok with what you decide too. None of your ideas really sound so crazy to me, and I think what is “traditional” has really changed over the past few years.

    Post # 12
    Member
    14494 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I totally get what you are saying. I am having a really tradition wedding, but I am still adding very personal touches. There is nothing wrong with that. If I were you, I would simply not discuss these things with the family. As for the FH, that is a hard one. While my FH is really involved in the wedding process, there are a ton of details that he doesn’t know about and sometimes only finds out about them when in a conversation about what I looking at online. Are these details he will even notice? Do you think you can get them in if you just simply do it without any discussion?

    Post # 15
    Member
    2819 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I’m sorry this is happening to you! : ( I’ve run into some of the same difficulties with my family & fiance. *HUGS* It’s hard, I know.

    Are you and your fiance paying (at least in part) for the wedding? If yes, I would use that to your benefit in terms of your family. Also, I’ve found it helpful to show them your inspiration photos and/or a mock-up — that really helps them VISUALIZE it. Finally, you could always do a poll post here on the ‘Bee about some of your details and show your family that other people LOVE this stuff. : )

    Post # 16
    Member
    28 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think Jenniphyr is right on about helping them visualize things.  My mom and fiance though I was crazy when I told them some of my ideas, but then when I showed them pics of similar things online, they had a much better idea of what I was envisioning and came around.

    The topic ‘Bubbles for fun details in wedding keep getting burst..:(’ is closed to new replies.

    Find Amazing Vendors