(Closed) Bucking any wedding traditions/trends

posted 8 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
7777 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Quite a few.

I am not wearing a veil over my face.

We are not doing a bouquet or garter toss.

We are going to see each other before.

None of the traditonal “dances” except our first dance.

Post # 4
950 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

No veil

No dancing…period (wedding’s around brunch, so we just don’t feel like dancing the day away when we can all be at Disneyland…so much more fun! Especially for the bunch of kids invited)

No announcing anyone from the wedding party

No cake cutting

No bouquets, at all (wearing leis instead to honor my heritage)

No “our song”

Possibly no rings…might be going with pendants instead

I think the only traditions we’re sticking with are that I’m wearing ivory/white & that we’re getting married in the church (I’m Catholic, it’s important to me)

Post # 5
837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m not wearing a veil

We are not doing a bouquet or garter toss because I think they are tacky

No cake being smashed in the face

Not getting married in a church

I’m sure there are others I just can’t think of them lol

Post # 6
946 posts
Busy bee

Not getting married in a church.

Not a religious ceremony. 

We’re both white as white can be, but I really want to jump the broom. 

No unity candle. No sand.

We’ll have dancing most likely, but we’ll also probably have a bonfire, drumcircle, and slacklining.

Post # 7
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

No ridiculous dances! Every wedding I always go to they do like the chicken dance, or electric slide, I’ve never been a fan so we will not be having those songs at the reception!

Post # 8
1426 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m not wearing a veil, but that seems to be becoming more and more common these days. 

I’m skipping a lot of vendors and going for the diy route, but that’s not really non-traditional either.  In fact, I think it’s way more traditional since before the 20th century no one really had vendors, they just put the wedding together with their family and friends.

Wedding party is super simple, just a best man and maid of honor.

We’re trying to avoid anything that is made specifically for weddings- so we’re having the reception in a restaurant rather than a catering hall or hotel.  Our cake is being made by the restaurant’s pastry chef and it’s really all about taste, rather than looks (I actually can’t remember what design we chose!) Plus any of those little accessories you see being marketed to weddings- the white satin puffy cover guest book, the matching flower girl basket and ring pillow, all that stuff got the ax.  I don’t want to see one scrap of tulle near this wedding!

Post # 9
2858 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

  1. We’re seeing each other before the ceremony
  2. We’re walking down the aisle and entering the ceremony area together
  3. We’re having ZERO mention of religion or God in our ceremony (and our good friend got ordained online so that he can marry us)
  4. No veil (maybe a birdcage veil, but it won’t be over my face)
  5. No special dances – no first dance, parents’ dance, etc.
  6. We’re not being announced into the reception
  7. We’re not cutting the cake
  8. No garter and/or bouquet toss



Post # 10
2775 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

We’re skipping the garter retrieval (because I don’t want my husband rooting around under my dress in front of our families) and bouquet toss (because the idea that single women are all chomping at the bit to get married is offensive to me).

And no cake smashing!

Post # 11
1020 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

1. not getting married in a church

2. not having a religious figure marry us and there will be no mention of religion whatsoever (woohoo @danadelphia–glad to see someone else is doing this too!)

3. seeing each other before the ceremony

4. no garter or bouquet toss

5. no smashing cake and the cake cutting will be VERY quick…we believe it’s a party foul to keep interrupting the fun

6. no champange toast (toast with whatever youre drinking)


8. no something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue

9. no grooms cake (we live in the south, i think i’ve almost given a few people heart attacks with this one)

10. no flower girl or ring bearer or matching bridesmaids

11. no white dress–both dresses i like are gold =)

12. likely no candle or sand. we are trying to figure out something to do with wine however, as we have quite an extensive wine collection and drinking will getting hitched would be something that was “totally us”

13. combining the parent dances into one dance

14. no money dance (in our family, this is a big deal, but i HATE it)

15. no ribbon bouquet at the rehearsal–we are big on the “going green” thing, so i was thinking maybe broccoli or something funny like that.

thats about it for now..anything else i can toss out the window?


Post # 12
459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We’re replacing a trend with a tradition. We’ll be doing a hand binding ceremony instead of the candle/sand ceremony.

We’ll also have cupcakes instead of a cake, but the top tier will be a 6 in cake. Future Mother-In-Law is paying for it & insisted on atleast the top to be a traditional cake “for the pictures” as she said.

(ok bear with me) A family friend of a friend (you got me?) will be marrying us, he’s already ordained.

We’ll also be doing a photobooth for our guestbook (there will be an actual book for guests to write notes in) but it will be a little more than the run of the mill sign your name type of guest book.

Post # 13
1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

1. My brothers and sister-in-law are standing up for me and his sister and two best friends are standing up for him. We just thought it was odd that the people who knew us our whole lives wouldn’t be standing next to us, so we decided to switch it up!

2. No cake. We both love cookies, so we’re having those instead!

3. No dancing. We love going out for nice dinners with our friends and families, and spending the evening talking, eating, and drinking. We’re never ones to go out “clubbing” and find loud music gets in the way of our “catching up”. We decided to make our wedding exactly how we would spend an evening with the people we love.

4. Bridal party can wear whatever they want. We decided that we want people to look and feel their best all night, and the best way to do that is for them to be able to wear exactly what they feel good in. So we’re letting everyone pick out their own outfits.

5. Cocktail hour before ceremony. We have people coming from far away, and we don’t want anyone to stress out because they are running late. So we figured if we have the cocktail hour before the ceremony, people won’t miss anything important (except maybe an extra beverage) if they’re running behind.

6. Ceremony and Reception at a restaurant. The venue we chose is on the 72nd floor of a skyscraper overlooking the entire city. It took our breath away!!

Post # 14
134 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

No Veil
No boquet toss
No garder toss
No cake: we’re doing choc. cream pies instead
No church: One of our Best Friends is marrying us
Bridesmaids won’t match

Post # 15
965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

No veil

Red shoes

Mom is giving me away

No bridesmaids. no church.

we live together already…so wedding night doesn’t mean much. lol.

ummm..my engagement right is titanium with an antique ruby.

we are actually getting married at our reception…



Post # 16
617 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

no stinkin’ garter toss or bouquet toss. I am actually very traditional in the way I handle a lot of things and FI’s family and my family strongly believes in tradition, so we’re doing quite a few traditional things, but I give you girls a lot of props who don’t!!!!! In a way, I wish I would be more comfortable getting rid of some traditions.

ETA: we’re adding to the ceremony to include my engagement ring after the exchange of rings.

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