(Closed) Bucking any wedding traditions/trends

posted 11 years ago in Traditions
Post # 17
7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

  1. not gettin’ married in a church
  2. possibly being married by a female minister
  3. having a teeny, intimate ceremony with just me, Fiance and my son present
  4. going on a “familymoon”, all 3 of us!  Having a blast and enjoying a tropical vacation (we’re having our real honeymoon next winter to st. lucia)
  5. having a seashell bouquet and the guys are having seashell bouts!
  6. Celebrating with a reception when we return home from our trip on the original date we were to marry on!
  7. having the would’ve been bridesmaids at the reception wear cute dresses (not bridesmaids dresses) in our wedding colors and having the groomsmen just have a flower stand with us when the minister blesses our marriage!  (I’m having cute small floral nosegays for the bm’s to hold) and then showing the video of our wedding at the reception! 

Post # 18
114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

  • Walking down the aisle alone
  • no blusher — maybe no veil at all
  • barefoot no shoes  on the beach  purple sandles for recepton
  • no dj/mc 
  • no annoucements
  • no silly dances
  • no parent dances (although we will problably dance with them just not make a big deal out of it
  • cake cutting short and sweet just for pictures no silly songs
  • No friends in bridal party having our kids, neices and nephews
  • not onlyy will we see each other day of and daybefore but we will be staying in the same house maybe even same room
  • want to skip the bouqet/ garter toss but the kids want it — hard call we always try to please the little ones
  • we are  having a grooms cake which for the most part our yankee family and freinds (groom included) never heard of (but it is a custom of the local where the wedding will be)  I am making his favorite cake and it will be toped with a fishing groom. 
  • we may start a few new traditons


Post # 19
624 posts
Busy bee

I didn’t do the something old, etc. by accident.

No church.

We stayed together the night before.

We saw each other before the ceremony for the reveal.

No wedding party.

Wine ceremony instead of sand or candles.

No bouquet for the wedding (again, by accident but I didn’t want a bouquet in the beginning anyways).

No bouquet toss or garter toss.

No seating of the parents.

No introduction of anyone but me and DH to the reception.

My dad didn’t walk me all the way down the aisle (me and DH walked ourselves).

No veil over face.

Every day I think of something new we didn’t do!

Post # 20
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

1. No veil

2. No church service – may be getting married by a female

3. No flower girl or ring bearer

4. no champagne toast or open bar (too many alcoholics in the crowd)

5. Photo booth for our guest book / wedding favor also

6. I would see him before the ceremony but my mother and my fiancee both thought I was insane. So I will go with what the fiancee feels so strongly about since I don’t care too much.

7. Definitely no smashing of cake – my Future Mother-In-Law told us that if we did that, our marriage would be doomed. We got a long talking to about this.

8. We are not leaving in a grand way – we want to stay with family and friends who came out to see us as long as possible and we are going to have brunch with Out of Town the following morning at the hall.

We are still doing a lot of traditions but we are doing the ones that work for us.

Post # 21
2066 posts
Buzzing bee

We’re not doing the bouquet toss or garter throw.  I’m sure we’re skipping other traditional elements, but I can’t think of them now.

Post # 22
4544 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We’re doing a First Look

We’re not getting married in a church and we’re getting married by a female

No bouquet or garter tosses

No flower girl or ring bearer

No grand exit

No smashing of the cake in our faces

No chicken dance or other silly dances!

Post # 23
246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

no introductions for me or anyone

doing a first look

no bouquet/garter tossing

no grand exit

no aisle runner


Post # 24
114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010


Doing a First Look — photo shoot before the ceremony and hopefully family pics then top so we will be at our entire wedding. 

We’re not getting married in a church and we’re getting married by a female

No grand exit

Not saving the top tier of the cake — will eat it with friends the last day in the house

No receiving line

We are having a Venetian Table which will incorporate a candy bar, cookie bar, and other sweets and we are havign a smore bar — goes with the pigpickin kind of.

no plus ones

not doing any special dinners or brunches for oot guests – I can barely afford the wedding

and I’m sure the list will go on…


Post # 25
278 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We’re not doing a whole lot of traditional things, but the biggest things we’re leaving out are the bouquet/garter toss (though from these boards, it seems like no one does them anymore) and we’re not having a best man/maid of honor.

Post # 26
372 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Reading this makes me laugh at all the traditonal things I NEVER thought I’d have but now do!  For example, I have a big white dress and I’m wearing a veil (but no blusher).  We’re getting married in a big ornate church (always thought more beach and barefoot) and  I have a huge wedding party (with 6 BMs/2 jBMs/3 FGs)!  But that part I think is partly because Fiance and I are “older” so more important people (and kids) in our lives!

 Non traditional things – 

– no favors (donation to charity instead)

– cupcakes instead of a big cake and no formal cake cutting ceremony 

– no parents dances (and our dance is more fun than sappy)

– no unity candle or sand ceremony

– no parents dances

– baseball game and tailgate instead of a formal post-wedding brunch
– getting married in FI’s hometown instead of mine

 Anyone else surprised as much by the traditions they are following than are not?

Post # 27
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

We’re already married but I thought I share since it was just last month 🙂

1. No bouqet/garter toss- I had intended to toss my bouqet to the crowd on our departure but I forgot. Got caught-up in the fun of running through all of our guests!

2. My veil over my face- Most weddings I go to no one wears the veil over their face, I hadn’t seen that in years. So I was breaking the trend and doing traditional.  But the wind had a different plan!  It was so windy outside my veil was blowing all over the place which was perfectly fine with us!

3. No church- We got married on the side of a runway!

4. We asked that our officiant not speak about any one religion.  We had a mixture of religions in our guests and we didn’t want to make anyone feel uncomfortable.

5. We didn’t do a unity candle or sand ceremony.  Instead we asked everyone to stand and hold hands. My husband and I walked to the center of the asile.  We said the Lord’s prayer and the officiant spoke about everyone surrounding us was our support system.

6. No groom’s cake- We are in the South and this is a big tradition. One I had a hard time letting go.  But I choose to do ice cream instead because that is my husband’s favorite thing in the world.  It was a huge hit!

7. No guestbook- Instead we had our invitation enlarged to poster size and framed.  We had people sign it. 

Post # 28
101 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I love these, guys!!

  • Living together/staying in the same room the night before
  • No church or religion/God/etc.
  • No veil
  • First Look
  • Not changing my last name
  • No garter/bouquet toss
  • Wishing wall instead of guest book
  • Non-floral centerpieces
  • No Out of Town bags (this is because everyone is an out of towner for this wedding Frown)
  • No grand exit

Post # 29
67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1993

1. No wedding party

2. No cake

3. No dancing

4. No church

5. No bouquet/garter toss

Post # 30
198 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

– didn’t get married in a church

– didn’t have something old, new, borrowed, and blue

– no father/daughter or mother/son dance

– no bouquet or garter toss

Post # 31
2560 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

  • Doing a first look, and all bridal party portraits before the ceremony
  • No kids in the wedding party
  • No church wedding, female non-religious officiant, no mention of religion at all in the ceremony
  • No “unity” ceremony – a couple “nontraditional” readings, we wrote our own vows, exchange the rings
  • Doing a proclamation of support from the guests attending the ceremony
  • No receiving line
  • Cocktail/mini-meal style reception, food available all night long
  • Wishing tree instead of a guest book
  • Short and sweet cake cutting – no silly songs
  • Cupcakes instead of a big cake
  • No cut flowers anywhere – fabric/feather bouquets, candle lantern centre pieces
  • No grand exit

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