(Closed) Budget brides – Do you worry that guests will think your wedding's lame?

posted 4 years ago in Money
Post # 46
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

I don’t think you should be worried.  It sounds like you have prioritised food and drink for your guests over flowers, decorations and a big expensive dress, which says that you care about hosting people properly.  I’m sure you will have a wonderful day and your guests will have a great time 🙂

Post # 47
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

CakeSniffer:  

Ending early: I can’t say I have personal experience with this one because we closed at midnight. That being said, the structure ended by 830 and the majority of guests left by 9, with a few stragglers staying behind so I don’t think it would have been a huge deal had we closed out earlier! 

Rushing: our ceremony was quite short and sweet and there was a break between the ceremony and reception but everything went pretty quick once the reception started.  No one minded at all! I think it’s a breath of fresh air to not have 8 hours of structure in the day!

Minimal Decor: we literally had coloured (plastic) tablecloths and centre pieces (complete with candles that never got lit) other than that, nadda. The stage was our head table back drop and there was literally zero wall decor to be found. The only thing anyone said was that the centerpieces were fabulous and how they loved the relaxed atmosphere! The pictures looked fabulous (the people is what we were there for!)

DIY cupcakes: we did this too, everyone thought it was awesome! It was fun, creative and personal!

No DJ: we went with the same thing and it was all totally fun! We had an mc (the pastors wife, who has never mcd before) and she directed the crowd when need be, other than that it was a few songs on the laptop for first dances etc and while the band was having breaks and then open stage night for the musicians of the family. It was an impromptu evening of magic, even with the lack of organization.

Diy makeup: did this too, because I am not a makeup girl. We went out, splurged on good foundation and some primer for the eye shadow and then just went with it. We diyd the hair too, my cousins did it for me. I got nothing but complements and felt beautiful all day long! I never even touched it up because I am way not girly enough for that 😉 

 

Honestly, it turned out so perfectly and felt so relaxed and “us” that I wouldn’t have had it any other way, even if I had a million extra dollars! Don’t fret the little things, you’re going to be beautiful and the wedding will rock, on the budget and everything!!

Post # 48
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Bumble Beekeeper

The thought had crossed my mind when we planned our wedding, but if someone is going to be displeased by the style of the wedding, they’re missing the whole point of the two people joining in love. 

Post # 49
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Blushing bee

It sounds like you’ve got this!! We’re also doing low budget.

I went w artificial flowers for my bouquet and it turned out lovely, I just finished making it today. Have your poked at something like that? Also if you Pinterest Minimalist wedding there’s some super classy stuff w absolutely minimal decoration. 

Im also doing my own makeup, and hair. 

get it girl!! I’m sure it’ll be lovely! 

Post # 50
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

KiwiDerbyBride:  I just wanted to add to this as its so true! OP, I completely understand your concerns but if you break your wedding down, you’ve done all of the important things and you have spent a portion of your limited budget making sure your guests are fed and happy. The fact you are worrying about what your guests will think proves that you are a very conscientious bride and the fact you are going to the effort of homemade cupcakes, foregoing fancy things that aren’t necessery for the essentials to make sure your guests have a good day… if anything, I think your guest will appreciate your efforts more!

Post # 51
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

Also, I forgot to add that we didn’t have a DJ but asked my Brother-In-Law to be our MC. He kept things moving along, introduced the various people who were making speeches etc etc, and it worked out really well.  There nothing to stop you asking a friend or family member to do that for you.

Post # 52
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - St. John\'s Lutheran Church

CakeSniffer:  I worry about this too, mostly because I have insane party anxiety for no good reason. But to alleviate your fears:

– I don’t want to be almost ANYWHERE for more than three hours. I don’t think people will feel rushed.

– Flowers are the kind of thing you only notice the presence of, not the absence of.

– Your guests will definitely know your cupcakes are homemade, because they will be ninety times better than dried-out bakery ones.

– The lack of a DJ seems stressful, but when was the last time you threw a birthday party – or any party – without a DJ? All the time, right? And you survived and everyone had fun!

– Insane raccoons are totally in right now. 😛

Post # 53
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Busy bee

To prevent the racoon eyes, use a make-up setting spray and bring q-tips with you. Also, if you have the budget, I highly recommend Lancome Defenicils as a mascara. I can go swimming while wearing it and it doesn’t run. If make-up setting spray isn’t in the cards, you can always use hairspray. Not the best alternative but if your on a budget, it’ll do the trick for one day. Just be sure to do a trial run so you know the spray your using doesn’t iritate the skin and have lots of moisterizer on hand since the spray could leave your skin dry. The cupcakes are a great idea too! My Darling Husband made all our cupcakes for our wedding because he is so picky about dairy-free ones. We iced them in plain white and they looked fantastic. I was worried about people eating them because at most weddings I go to no one usually eats the dessert. Almost all our cupcakes went. As long as bellys are full, alcohol is flowing, there’s good company and things are organized, people will think it’s the greatest thing ever. Worry not. 

Post # 54
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

CakeSniffer:  I had soooo many of the same fears that you did. My wedding was almost entirely DIY and I opted against several things like flowers and overly fancy decor items. Instead, I purchased a bunch of multi-color lanterns and hung them from the ceiling, all of my centerpieces came thrifted or were books I already owned, and I had a friend make all of the cupcakes. Guests were really impressed with how “personal” everything felt. I had been so fearful because my older sister had a really lavish wedding four years previously and I didn’t want my wedding and her wedding to be compared (as I felt like I couldn’t compete). However, all I’ve heard from people is that my wedding was one of the best or so much fun or so “us” that the guests loved it. 

My wedding ended at 9:00 p.m. and I could not have been more grateful. I was exhausted by that point and we still had to break down the venue and clear everything out. Most of our guests were staying at an hotel across the street, so we just moved the party over there. 

As long as there is good food, an open bar, and good music playing, I don’t think anyone is going to have any complaints. People don’t really focus on the decor as much as how much fun they were having and how full they were.

Post # 56
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Newbee
  • Wedding: A backyard

If anyone complains they can throw you a wedding and pay. It’s your day and just make it you!! Something I’m considering for our big day is the Japanese 1000 wish cranes. They say if you fold 1000 cranes your wish is granted, neither of us is Japanese, but their pretty cool little guys (I helped some friends make then for another very ill friend once) and they would make GREAT cheap decore!! Just have fun and be yourself.

I’m thinking a diy decore cupcake bar, I can bake them and they can play with sprinkles gummies, frosting etc. :3 good luck!

PS, She-laq by benifit is awesome for sealing up your make up!! 

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Post # 57
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

 

CakeSniffer:  My friend has a totally cheap wedding.  No cake, only bouquet flowers, courthouse, no dj, and I was her co-ordinator that day as a favor.  It was honestly the best wedding I’ve ever been too.  The focus was on what mattered and what mattered to the couple.  If I where you I would go to drink tickets instead of the open bar and put plenty of wine on the tables so  I could extend my reception till 10.  The tickets work really well if you give a bunch to a few people you trust to pass them out and a lot of people will get plenty drunk on the wine at the tables and give their tickets to other family members.  

Also, my mom did her own makeup for her wedding and she looked gorgeous.   That being said, if you have an extra 60 dollars in your budget right at the end, splurge on the airmake up.  The pictures are the only thing that will last beyond the day and you want to look your best.  But really, it’s just a minor enhancement.

I’ve been in 7 weddings in the last 7 years.   2 things I learned, The cheapest ones where the most fun, and the less F**Ks you give about what people think, the happier the couple is.   Don’t sweat the budget and put the money into what matters most to YOU.

And FYI, homemade almost ALWAYS tastes better than store bought.

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Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I think you may be stressing unnecessarily. I bet your cupcakes will be delicious (I am having cupcakes for mine!), just put them in a tiered stand and add some ribbon to the edges… Voila! Instant professional look. 

Also, if I might make a suggestion. If you purchase the monthly membership for YouTube Red, you can customize and entire Playlist with no commercials and no interruptions. Rent a speaker or ask someone who has one to lend it to you and connect a computer to it (make sure Screensaver is off!!). You will have endless music and no one will be the wiser. 

I am doing my own makeup. I strongly suggest you invest in a good foundation and primer, some HD shine free powder, and a waterproof mascara (Covergirl The Super Sizer is a current favorite and I am a mascara freak) and just avoid eyeliner in the bottom portion of your eyes or the water line (this usually turns into the racoon effect). A shimmery pretty Blush and some superstay lipstick(Covergirl Outlast is my top choice!) and you should be golden!! 

It’s your day and you’ve worked hard to make it happen. Don’t let the little things get to you. If you’re having fun, your guests will enjoy it too. 

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