(Closed) Budget Brides – Ever feel like “What’s the point?”

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

oh honey.

I find that I have to stay away from the bridal sites and blogs. If I don’t, I just start wishing, and feeling down, and that’s crazy! Why should I feel bad that I’m getting married the way I can afford? Why am I buying into this ridiculous notion that it’s not a wedding if it doesn’t cost x amount of money?

Really, all that matters is you & your Fiance are committing your lives to one another and your friends & family are there to celebrate it with you. Trust me, ten years down the road NO ONE is going to remember if you had programs or not.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Honey, been there done that, if you want to you can message me to swap budget tips ect. oh and wile im on the subject lol, have you thought about doing diy centerpieces or ordering them from a place like bunches direct? My centerpieces are 40$ a pop, (im only doing 2) that seems like alot to me lol, but since i really wanted them I’m having my bms carry a single white rose instead of bouquets πŸ˜€ and my bouqets only costing me 50$ so you should check them out. and hey Its hard being a ver low budget bride, but its whats happening at the wedding that matters, not the wedding itself. Cheap your chin up you’ll have a blast on your special day πŸ˜€

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m doing that RIGHT NOW. Even though I got a ton of helpful advice for the wedding, my main problem is finding a #$*( venue. :/ I know I will be making sacrifices along the way and hopefully it will be worth it.

Hope it feels better to vent! I’ve been wanting to post “WHY THE HECK CAN’T I FIND A VENUE?” But I’ve held off for now. haha.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

*keep your chin up lmao

Post # 7
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Honey bee

You know what I think? A lot of brides, budget or not, think about the things they wish they could have or didnt do etc.  It can be tough and even tougher for a super budget bride.

But on that day you are marrying the man you love surrounded by people who love you two.  You and them wont remember the small details most likely. The BEST wedding I have ever been to was a community chip-in event. I had the most fun, I cried the hardest at the ceremony, etc.  Money does not relfect on the love of the couple or the memories people will have on the event.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Well put bebefly!

You are not putting yourself into debt.  Which is probably the biggest advantage you have over a big foo foo wedding.  Trust me when I say that a lot of people charge it up and are still paying for their wedding down the road.  Did you ever see the Mtv True Life – I’m Getting Married!  where the Jersey couple had a HUGE wedding, I mean huge, fireworks went off in the ballroom!  They show the groom counting the cash during the party.  They had spent so much that they couldn’t afford a house or a honeymoon.  You are doing right by you and your fiance.  Stay tough, enjoy your day!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I understand that feeling. I’m a budget bride as well, and so many times I’ve wanted to go crazy on my wedding and have the whole sh-bang. I remind myself how much it would cost and immediately see how silly it is to spend that kind of money on one day.

The most important thing is that you will be holding your FH hands telling each other how much you love each other and saying I Do! It’s about your love for each other not the money spend or the decorations, show off your love. And spend time with family and friends. everything else only lives in pictures but love lives in you two every moment.

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m a budget bride too (whole wedding under $3400…) and you just have to remember to keep it in perspective.

It’s the marriage that matters, and the day is symbolic of your marriage.  If you focus on that, nothing else matters πŸ™‚

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@tess75: I feel the SAME way. I don’t even see the point most of the time because there isn’t much I can do with $1000 to make a nice wedding… No actual photographer, no where near my dream dress, no profassional ANYTHING, no cool decorations, ect… but when we have money to get started as a family (hopefully) I will look back and be glad we didn’t spend all our money on one day. It is hard I know, I would LOVE 15,000 for a wedding heck, I would be thrilled to have 5,000 but that won’t work for us so we are making what we have work. I hope things work out for you I really do. Good luck πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

Yup, I hear you. Some days I just want to say F!CK IT! and drop everything. I get upset because I can’t afford this or that but I usually can come up with a cheaper alternative. It takes forever, but if I really REALLY hunt for the best deals on things and consider several options I can make most things work. No photobooth? Fine, I’ll have a faux-to booth! No cake? Fine, I’ll make cupcakes. No florist? Fine, I’ll buy wholesale and arrange it myself! No fancy shoes? Fine, buy the knockoff!

We can make it work, don’t lose hope! You figure out what REALLY matters when you’re on a small budget. I’ll be shocked if we come up with over 3000$ for our wedding and I truly feel like I wont regret not having this or that.

Feel free to PM me if you need any money saving tips!

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper

@tess75: I’m sorry you are feeling this way.  I am sure that your wedding will be wonderful.  Don’t stress about it and have FUN!  There are so many choices now that I think it sometimes makes things more stressful for brides.  When we got married there weren’t so many choices. We had white polyester linens. There were only 4 colors for Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. We didn’t have STDs-at least the kind you have now πŸ˜› lol.  You are getting married to the love of your life, you have a beautiful dress. Have a wonderful time and remember what really matters!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I feel this way too sometimes, but I think in the long run you will probably be happier you didn’t break the bank and you’ll have more money to start your life together πŸ™‚

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Your wedding will be wonderful with or without a huge budget because you will have your new husband and the people that care about you both the most there with you. I also had thoughts of “what if”, but instead of dwelling on those thoughts, I just embraced what I had to work with and went with it. Our wedding won’t be the most lavish wedding and probably not the most fun, but we will have each other and family and friends to share our day with, and we won’t have a ton of additional debt going into our new life together. Try not to stress about it. In the end, it will all be wonderful.

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

i know what you are going through, I’m a low budget bride, I stay away from most wedding sites, cause it’s depressing. I’ve had a couple of co-workers tell me if i’m not having a lavish affair i should not have a wedding. They brought up the wedding needless to say they are no longer on my guest list. I just tell myself this about us getting married, my diy project will mean more to me than anything store bought, cause it was made with love. (cheesy i know)

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