- 10 years ago
- Wedding: May 2009
I don’t know how to write this without potentially offending someone, so I’m putting it out there now that if money is a sore subject, I apologize in advance.
I don’t really understand how some people come up with these absolutely ginormous budgets, and really, why?
I can understand completely if you and your intended make a lot of money, or if you come from a wealthy family that can afford to pay for an lavish wedding. This is not really directed at those people.
This is more directed to the brides who fall in the middle and lower socioeconomic spectrum. How did you come up with a budget? If your parents are paying a large portion, was it something that they had been saving for for some time now? Are they taking out loans? Are you?
To give a little bit of background, my BFF is planning her own wedding for next spring. Her family is NOT well-off financially–her mom is not in the picture, and her dad delivers the mail. She’s also the middle of 7 kids. She thinks that 40K is a reasonable budget, even taking into consideration that her family doesn’t have the funds to make this happen. (For those who care, 40K in Alabama is comparable to probably 70K in more urban settings) She also fully expects her parents (well, her dad) to pay for it.
I started to talk to her, but then realized that I had no idea what to say. I knew how I had come up with my own budget, but had no idea how others had. I know money is a sore subject for a lot of people, but if you don’t mind sharing, I’d like to have an idea of how your budget was set, and why? Is it because that’s how much it legitimately costs for the basics (venue, food, drinks, photography, etc) in your area, or are you going above and beyond in certain areas? If someone other than you (parents, grandparents, etc) is paying for it, how are they funding it?