Post # 1
My wedding venue is not allowing me to bring my own alochol. They are charging me 7.50 a drink. With my 250 guests which are mostly drinkers I am afraid that we may end up spending way more then we initially planned. My fiancee insists the bar to be open all night, but my saving habits are sending my nerves on a rampage. We have plans on moving to a different state after our wedding and going somewhere nice for our honeymoon. Being cautios with my money, I know we should have a little extra just in case of an emergency. We are already slightly over budget. There is no talking to my fiancee about the possability of a cash bar or tickets for individual drinker. So I came up with an idea. Please let me know what you think.
Most of my guests are cocktail and beer people. However, I want to have a beer and wine only cocktail hour (actually 2 hours). We are only charged for tapped Beer Kegs and opened wine bottles ($20 a bottle). I did the math and we would actually save by giving out wine instead of 7.50 per alcoholic beverage.
We would then move to dinner and the bar would open to be a fully open bar, from 7-12 am. I feel iffy about this plan.
What do you all think?
Post # 3
@paola.rios.ibarra: Why not set a cap on the bar? Or a drink maximum per person that you will cover? Your plan also sounds fine to me (assuming you’re also offering nonalcoholic beverages like soda).
ETA: Clearly I missed the last three sentences of your first paragraph. I still think your idea sounds good.
Post # 4
Your plan sounds good. You could also do it the opposite way — open bar during cocktail hour and maybe for the first hour or two of dinner and the reception, and then at 8 or 9, switch to just beer and wine. (By that time, people will already be a little tipsy and might not care. Most people I know switch to beer after a few cocktails, so it might be a more natural progression that way!)
Or you could do just beer and wine for the whole time! That’s what we’re doing (but we don’t have a lot of heavy drinkers).
Post # 5
We are hosting beer and wine, with other drinks available on a cash basis, and we are pre-establishing the limit of how much beer & wine we’re buying (if it runs out, it then rolls over to a cash basis as well). Would something like that be a workable compromise with your FI?
Post # 6
My friends are heavy drinkers too, but they aren’t coming to your wedding to get drunk– they are coming to celebrate with you! You seem more stressed about the budget (which I would be too) so do whatever will alleviate that concern. Youre friends can go without the hard liquor for an evening.