Post # 17
@alotlikelove: We never set an official budget. We had a general range we wanted to stick to (between $10,000 and $13,000, not including our attire/accessories, rings, or honeymoon), but we’re somewhat flexible. We’re paying for everything ourselves, so we don’t want to get too crazy! It helps that we’ve been paying as we go, though, so several of our bigger expenses have either been completely paid off or a chunk has been paid. I recently added up what we’ve paid and/or been quoted so far, though, and we’re definitely going to be closer to the $15,000 to $20,000 range. If we initially set a strict budget, I’d be freaking out. Since I knew we had some wiggle room, though, it’s been a little easier to swallow. (Though really, spending so much money on one day is a little sickening when I think about all of the other things we could be doing with it.)
Post # 18
I know exactly what you mean. We got married 6 months ago. I couldn’t tell you what it cost without pooring over the main credit card statements for the 5 months prior to get an exact figure (we have one credit card we use for everything, pay off each month, get points/cash back on). I have another, that we used for the honeymoon flights and paid off just to keep it on my credit report as used and paid over time over minimum.
We knew we needed us, an officiant, a place, and a marriage license. Bottom line that’s what we had to have to get married. After that it was what we wanted/could afford. I am sure the honeymoon cost at least twice the wedding tho :)! So the honeymoon money was pretty much set aside after the required bits and we paid for stuff as we went. But we had a small wedding and neither of us had had a real vacation in years. We pretty much bought things in the order they mattered.
Our priorities and keeping costs down measures… Dressing up was high on the list (DH joked he had to put a ring on it to see me in a dress), as was food.
- Since our wedding was small my friend and her husband cooked the food, and ceremony/reception was at their country home also. Ham (was awesome, I only got one piece and no leftovers!), beef knuckle, baked beans, cole slaw, punch. So that reduced costs considerably. The food was over $100… I think $145… but the $45 they insisted was a wedding gift (on TOP of use of home, cooking, etc!).
- I got a consignment dress (loved it, not bridal but was probably bridal party and still had orginal tags… paid 1/4 price of the tag). DH got a suit on sale that he could wear again, wanted my input on color, etc… partially because he couldn’t see the dress :).
- Hired a local young photographer on word of mouth and seeing her work from them and emailing/talking/meeting her.
- My mom offered to pay for flowers and cake. Yay! (bouquet, boutonneres, and corsages). Cake topper ordered online for less than $20 including shipping.
- Theme was something that matched color and I already had nicknacks of so we just brought them and put them on the tables. With a small close gathering we didn’t worry about anyone running off with anything (they didn’t). My friend went above and beyond and used silk flowers and some vases she had to match the colors and even food coloring in clear vases. Great idea!
- We did have some streamers, balloons, and other decor but it was bought at Party City for under $100 total. My friend and her daughter in law set it all up. Because it was threatening rain that day her husband got tarps for their detached LARGE garage to cover tools/motorcycle (even tho we said we didn’t care) and she got cheapo (99 cent) white shower curtains to cover most of the bright blue tarps lol. The tables/chairs they had most already and borrowed the rest some from neighbors.
ETA: Wow, that’s a long post!
Post # 19
@alotlikelove: I didn’t have a budget either! Money wasn’t tight so if I spent a couple thousand more than necessary it was no big deal. I honestly have no idea exactly how much was spent on our wedding (last August). We didn’t put anything on credit or loans and everything was paid in full before the big day so I figured why stress ab it?
Post # 20
@alotlikelove: You’re not alone, i don’t have a budget either.
My Dad is paying for a majority of my wedding. Fortunately, he is financially secure and earns well.
His rule was that he will pay for anything unless he thinks it’s a stupid idea, in which i have to pay for it. It’s a good comprimise.
I don’t have a budget per say but i refuse to spend an unreasonable amount for something. I love finding a bargain anyway.
Post # 21
I think it’s important to have at least a loose idea of a budget that you figure out in collaboration with your partner. Working out a budget is one of the ways that wedding preparation helps you prepare for marriage – finances are a major area where couples need to have (or develop) good communication and negotiation skills, and working on the wedding is a chance to test those out before making a permanent commitment.
Among couples who divorce, money disagreements are often cited as a primary cause, so I think that even if money is not an issue or if the budget itself isn’t formalized in a spreadsheet or whatever, it’s still important to have those conversations with your partner and make sure you’re on the same page.
Post # 22
We did a kinda vague budget at first, but we’ve basically got all the money we needed to pay for the wedding stuff, so it’s not like we needed to count every cent. Our wedding is over and done with, and it probably came to about $12K (which is pretty cheap, but Australian standards!), but we certainly didn’t work hard to keep it within a certain limit or anything.
Post # 23
I found it really hard to budget because I didn’t have a clue what things were supposed to cost and when things were very cheap it was usually too good to be true! For example, a venue we looked at advertised €45 for meal which is quite cheap. But this didn’t include canapés, evening food or bar extension. It all added up to €70.
We had a rough idea about a few things:
Venue, food and drink: under €10,000. I think it worked out at €9500
Band: €2,000 We paid €2,200 which was incredible value as they played in the church, recaleption evening and even did Dj!
Dress… Well Iwon’t say. That budget went out the window! The budget was €1,500-€2,00. The actual cost was €2,000 plus at least three trips to London for fittings!!!
Rings: €1,000. We paid €900
We didn’t do too badly but I spent a fortune buying stuff on etsy and other site so I’d say that’s what blew the budget!!
Post # 24
I think some people make budgets too early, before they do research of how much things actually cost. Like I never would have expected my venue to charge as much as they do for just the space, or alterations for my dress to be over $400!
We kind of started with a budget of $25K and then quickly realized that doesn’t go too far in the wedding world. We found a venue we fell in love with for $11K and food/bar will be another $20K for the 150 guests we invited. Our budget went out the window early on, which is fine. We are getting the wedding we want and not going into debt over it so I don’t stress about it.
Post # 25
We don’t really have a set budget. We’re just doing what we can with what we have.
Post # 26
We didn’t have one. We knew what we could afford to pay in cash (we didn’t put anything on credit cards) and had general estimates for the big ticket items. We received a small contribution from my parents (less than 8% of our budget) and his parents paid for the rehearsal dinner. The rest was on us.
Post # 27
We have an EXTREMELY strict budget, because Fiance and I are both tpe A and spreadsheets make us happy!
Post # 28
We didn’t necessarily make a budget, but kind of have an idea of what we’re working with. I’m a huge bargain shopper and am very conscious when spending money. Fiance family agreed to pay for the photographer, DJ/photobooth, trasportation, chair covers, and rehersal dinner. My family agreed give $5k towards whatever we decided to use it for. Fiance and I will pay for the rest. Hoping our out of pocket is no more than $7500 and I think we can totally do that. Good luck with everything! 🙂
Post # 29
We don’t have a budget, but I think that’s partially because Fiance and I are on the same page as far as what we consider reasonable and what we consider WTF WHY IS THAT SO EXPENSIVE?!
For example, we’re spending 15k on our venue and our wedding bands will be around 8k combined, which some people might find outrageous. However, both of us thought the cost of flowers and invitations (and a few other traditional but non-necessary details) are outrageous when it comes to weddings, so we’re leaving out some things that aren’t important to us or cutting back on necessary things. My dress wil be about $2k, but my shoes will probably be $40. His suit will be $5k, but his tie will likely be from marshalls. I think if either of us wanted something more traditional (read- giant and fancy) we would have to set a budget but as it stands now we’re just dealing with it as it comes.
Post # 30
I didn’t have a specific budget. In general I don’t really budget, but I don’t overspend.
I just spent what I thought was reasonable on specific items. I didn’t worry about the little things although those certianly added up.
Post # 31
We set a budget. In our budget, we also had added in our parent’s contributions. It will be easier as we get planning and buying more. But i’m not to sure what a lot of these things cost. My Maid/Matron of Honor gave me her budger break down, and what she found were general costs. That helped a lot too. If there are a few little extras we’d like to have thats, fine, but we are going to spend thousands over our budget.