Post # 1
So… my Fiance and I are debating over budgeting tonight. He is a phys ed teacher and wears track pants/cargo pants/cargo shorts with a polo shirt every single day. He lives off of clothes he gets for his birthday (end April) and Christmas. He never spends any $$ on clothing.
I am a clincial social worker and need professional attire for meetings and appearances, while other days I can go more casual. I’m in my second year of work, so I’ve ditched most of my collage-clothes which look too young for my job, and have been building my wardrbe. Fiance thinks that having a variety of clothing is unneccesary, and that I need 5 or 6 “outfits” that I wear each week!!!! Seriously!?!?!?!The other downside is that I’ve put on about 15 pounds in the last year and a half, so a few things are too tight to wear right now. I’m trying to loose, but it’s not instantaneous, and I do need a few things for fall/winter. I do try to get things tht I can mix and match so I get more variety with fewer things.
For example for fall/winter bottoms I own: 3 pr jeans, 2 pr dress pants, 3 pr casual pants, 4 skirts. I don’t think that’s a lot. And I have had the dress pants over 2 years and spent less than $30 each on the casual work pants. I think I’m doing well trying to balance practical/budget consciousness with variety in my wardrobe. I don’t buy expensive shoes or purses either. And I don’t buy any jewelry/other accessories.
So how do you budgt for clothing? What percentage of your income is spent on clothes? How much variety does a professional girl need? How did you and your SO come to an agreement on clothing purchases? Am I right to say that I “need” a little variety, so I’m not wearing the exact same outfit every Wednesday?
Post # 3
Fiance an I each have a monthly “personal” fund that we can spend on whatever – outside food, entertainment (with other friends – we have a joint fund for entertainment we do together), and clothes.
I like it this way because as long as it comes out of my personal fund he can’t b**** about what I buy!
Post # 4
I think you’re right that you need variety. I was just telling my hubby that I need some new work clothes because so few of mine fit. We don’t budget a lot for clothes right now, as we’re trying to be frugal because we have so many purchases right now due to house renovations and things miraculously breaking right after we got married (seriously- his car- our washing machine- the oven- it’s awful!) so I can’t help you out with that. But what I CAN say is that you don’t have to wear the exact same outfit every day when you stick with a limited amount of clothes. Mix things up, think outside the box, wear a scarf, layer, etc. There was just a spread in Glamour this month on a woman who wore the same black dress every single day for a year. She just mixed up her accessories. Accessories can go a long way, and if you shop at the right places, they are pretty cheap. (H&M, Forever 21). Put aside however much you and your man think is OK to spend and hit one of them up and see what you can get for that amount- just try to think outside the box!
Post # 5
You need a bit of variety, and you need to look professional at your job. I had a similar issue earlier this year, it had been years since I bought any work appropriate clothes (I prefer party dresses and shoes!) so I budgeted for a big spend to re-do my whole (winter) wardrobe. I took along a friend who loves shopping and is very stylish (and super budget conscious). It was great and I feel a lot better at work now. We pool a certain % of our funds into a joint account and then the rest is ours to spend how we like. So FH has no say over what I spend my money on, and vice versa. Works for us and I would never want to justify or defend my personal spending to anyone else 🙂 Is there something your FH spends money on that you don’t, that would even things up? Like video games, a gym membership, his car, sports clubs, etc? If personal accounts aren’t the way to go for you, maybe that would be a good compromise?
Post # 6
clothing-my hubby is a free clothing whore! his company pays for his suits, day to day work wear, business shirts, polo shirts – even his socks & shoes for god sake! hubbys plan is never to have to buy clothes ever again so he has boxes of stuff thats never been worn.
im not a huge clothing shopper but if i need/want something i get it and if there is something he needs (ie winter polartec stuff) i get that. hes never once questioned a purchase (unless its shoes, he says i have too many) but i will say last winter i spent about $1000 on polartec winter stuff for him but it will last years and years and i dont think he realized how expensive it is
Post # 7
hehe… your Fiance wants you to be like me. I’ve found over the years that no matter HOW MANY OUTFITS I have, I 1) still get bored with the clothes I have and 2) still end up wearing the same 6-7 outfits over and over.
I have a bunch of other stuff that I love, but for some reason I just never wear it. Very occassionally I put something different on, and people are always like, “WOAH! You look great! You bought new clothes!” which I guess means I should change it up more often… but I’m so lazy with fashion.
Have you talked with him about WHY you value variety in your wardrobe? (i.e. makes you feel more confident to look good, you need a variety of outfits for more/less formal work events, etc.) Also, a good (and practical) compromise could be working on making your own wardrobe more mix-and-match friendly. A white with pink pin stripes suit set may look killer, but it’s hard to wear just the skirt or jacket with much else 🙂 whereas a few classic pieces will allow you to mix and match a lot more, thus FEELING like you’ve got more variety, without totally breaking the budget. You can always splurge on a few stand out pieces each season (I like getting dressy tops that go under a jacket/cardigan at the trendy stores at the mall, because they’re cheap but so fun, so I don’t feel guilty about spending too much money. They’re often ‘too young’ for me to wear alone, but under a blazer they look great and really ‘pop’ for the office!
Post # 8
Fiance does not spend money on anything. He’s saved a boatload since he started working after college. He JUST bought a PS3 with some money he wasn’t expecting, but he had been debating that purchase for months and months. No car stuff, no toys…
I definitely try to find mix and match things and I don’t know that I own any outfit that I cant mix and match. I know little about fashion and usually stick to the basics. I’m just becoming a skirt person, but specifically purchased colors/styles I can mix with a bunch of tops I already own. I’m awful with accessories. The only accessorie I wear is my E ring and a hair tie on my wrist.
I tried to explain to Fiance that as a woman in a professional field, I can’t wear the same outfits day after day. He says that more than 5 outfits is not a basic need, but a want. He’s never chastised me for purchasing clothes and likes it when I look nice, but still things it’s excessive.
*sigh* if he only knew what high maintenance really was…
Post # 9
oy…I think your guy probably doesn’t get it (lucky man getting to wear tracksuits to work though).
You need variety and you do need professional clothes. Like it or not, we draw a lot of conclusions about a person’s skills and effectiveness in social situations from how put together they are.
Stick to classic items that can be mixed and matched so even if you wore that cardigan last week it looks different paired with another neutral pant color and top. Then you don’t need as much but still have a variety. AND don’t forget about nice shoes. That is the one thing I notice all the time about people….its the details that show professionalism (I’m so suprised by the number of people I see wearing casual shoes with SUITS).
Post # 10
A man and a woman both look into their closet and say ” I have nothing to wear.”
What a man really means is ” I have nothing CLEAN to wear.”
What a woman really means is “I have nothing NEW to wear.”
i don’t think you are going overboard with your desire to have some new work clothes. We also have a personal amount of money that we can use at our own discretion, we call it “fun money”, which will pay for things we want, like clothing:)
Post # 11
I think that you do “need” a little variety and it sounds to me like you’re trying your best to get mix-n-match things that can make two or three different outfits with accessories.
We each get a “budget” amount to spend on whatever extra that we need through the month…can you set aside something like that? As long as you’re not spending more than your budget, he can’t complain…
Post # 12
My fiance and I have struggled with budgeting but we’ve come down to this:
We have a joint checking and savings account. We each but the $ for the bills in the checking account and a little extra, a number we’ve agreed upon that will go toward anything we want to do together. The savings account we also agree on an amount that be both add. We make the same amount but this doesn’t always work as we have personal bills that amount to more or less than the other persons. But we will not have one person put in money if the other one can’t.
Then we each have our own accounts and we spend that as we choose.
That may have been confusing but what I’m basically saying is if your bills are paid, you are putting money in your savings (whether its your joint savings or personal savings) and you have extra money, spend it on what you want. And if its work clothes, its a great investment because you can wear them for years. I’ve slowly created a wardrobe because I agree, a woman needs variety. A lot of men will not get it so I wouldn’t try to make him understand lol.
Post # 13
You both just need to allocate a personal spending allowance that accumulates over time or something. For example, you could decide how much you’ll spend on clothes in one year, and divide it up by week/day or whatever. So you could “earn” $5/day into your spending allowance or something. If you each had it, then what should he care what you do with it?
We do something like this – but just for general personal spending. Neither of us spends much on clothes.