(Closed) Budget Flip-Flop

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

What does the Venue include?  If it includes the food and drinks, then half the budget is probably reasonable. If it doesn’t, then that is alot to spend on the venue.  I would sit down and talk again with FH and set a hard budget, something that you are both comfortable with.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

without knowing all the details, it sounds like this place is maybe a bit over the top. Count yourself lucky that your guy is talking honestly about how he feels, instead of blowing up later on because he bottled it up.

I agree with @tksjewelry that if it includes the catering costs, half your budget is reasonable. You shouldn’t spend more than half of your budget on catering and venue.

and just remember, it’s ONE day. A very special day, but how much debt do you really want to incur over a wedding? since your date is Sept 2013, I don’t think you need to stress too much at this point, you’ve got time to decide.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2012

As a fellow Chicago bride, our venue ended up being half our budget as well but, like tksjewelery eluded to, it includes everything.  We don’t have to rent chair covers, get a cake, pay for booze, etc.  I’m not sure what place you’re looking at but, just because at fave value it’s more expensive, having a place that includes lots of extras may actually end up being cheaper in the long run than other alternatives.  I say, put a spreadsheet together and compare prices between places and included and “hidden” costs (eg. chair covers) that are present at this, and other locations and see what happens.

Good luck!!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

It’s your FI’s wedding too… that doesn’t mean you have to roll over on everything but do try to keep in mind that you have a long way to go and making decisions that you’re both comfortable with will go a long way toward harmony & bliss.

Look at more venues, try to find one you both like that is in your budget. Set a firm budget that you’re both okay with and keep an open mind about venues.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Yup, I agree with @lexy.  Look at other venues, itemize lists and then do a price comparision.  Make sure you’re both on the same page and stuck to the budget.

Good luck!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@ohmybears48: Oh good! It’s easy to get caught up in the emotions of things. Some people (like your Fiance I’m assuming) just process those sorts of decisions a little slower 🙂 Good luck dear.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@ohmybears48:  I agree with the PP about if the venue includes everything (linens, dinnerware, food, beverages, tables and chairs), it is normal for it to be 50% of your total budget.  But also, make sure it includes service charge and tax.  Sometimes those little fees make a huge difference in the overall price.

Also, is there a way you can negotiate?  You can leverage all the venues against each other and get a better price, even if you didn’t like the other venues.  It’s not like your dream venue knows that.  =)

Good luck!

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

What’s the venue?

A nice benefit to having so much included is that it’s a lower stress situation for you. If you go with a venue that doesn’t include as much, but you still need the items in order to have the event, you’ll be spending the time finding vendors for those things. Thatmeans more contracts and more things to pontentially go wrong, and as you add up these costs you might find yourself near the original venue’s price anyway.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@ohmybears48: Love Salvage One.

I hear you on traveling families–90 percent of our guest list will be FLYING in, so I’m finding myself in a similar situation.

P.S. Thanks for the reception list, sending you a PM now.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@ohmybears48: I don’t really understand this sentence: “Doing it at a hotel or a banquet hall is not an option, or it wouldn’t be worth the 2 hour + drive for my family to make that day.”

Wouldn’t your family want to be there to witness you getting married and celebrate with you regardless of how fancy your venue is?  Undecided  I understand the desire to “wow” your guests, but I guess I don’t really understand why it wouldn’t be “worth it” to your family if you had your reception at a hotel…  (I also don’t think two hours is that far to travel for a wedding; Fiance and I do that regularly for his extended family who live far away.)

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@ohmybears48: If that price does NOT include the catering, it represents much too much of your total budget for you to consider. My venue — INCLUDING venue rental fees, sound system, tables and chairs, all table service (china, flatware, glasses, etc.), table linens, all food and beverage costs (except for the cake itself), AND all taxes and gratuities, was a little more than half of my total wedding budget.

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